Jesse James and the Pattern of the SPLITTER

Did you ever wonder where the present day behaviors that don’t work for us worked for us? Here is a clue: when you were in your forming stages as a kid.    If you want to understand why you (and others) set up difficult, sloppy situations that hurt you and others...

Leadership and “It’s All About Me”

  Think about a moment when someone is judging a situation that seems untenable and you think “What did I do to make this so awful?”   Happens to the best of us; happens to all of us. What is the best way to handle the emotions that bubble up? Many become “the...

Do You Know Your Leadership and Parenting Derailers?

  I found this very good article on Huffington Post about Leadership and Parenting. Please read and note my comments; I’d love to hear your thoughts.   As some of my friends and colleagues know, I’m a bit obsessed with an assessment tool I use in my consulting...

Workplace Conflict and Collaboration

  Think about going into a room where you do not know anyone. What is your initial reaction? Do you stand on the side to get a sense of the others in the room? Perhaps you move quickly to the beverages and feel safer with a drink in your hand. Are you one who would go...