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3 Ways for Stress to Work for You

Stress and change are the most intimate of bedfellows. They feed on each other and can make days dark and depressing or exhilarating and enticing. We get to choose. But before we can choose, we need to peel back the layers and understand why change is such a complex force and how simple responses with one word can make all the difference.. In our leadership development program, “Total Leadership Connections” we talk about the power of language. What we say, how we say it, the tonality of one’s voice all play a part in how we get our points across. It’s really simple, the better you are understood and your wants and needs are met, the lower the stress-o-meter. Two of the most basic words in our vocabulary, ones that start our language motor when we are infants can induce or diminish stress quickly and easily. Let’s start with “no”. 1. No belongs first and foremost to the terrible twos. It is primal, often among the first words that children from English speaking families practice with. And at its heart it means something like “I will decide” or “these are my boundaries” or “now I can get my own food so I won’t be beholden to anyone”. No is a step into individuation. It is a word that forces us to discriminate. And when we are clear and say “no” and mean it stress is lowered. The pleaser has a tough time with the word “No” and often back pedals when they dare use this word as a grown up. No is a complete sentence! When you have done...