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Pattern Interrupted

Pattern Interrupted

It truly is all in the eyes of the beholder. I was at a business meeting and the leader of the team went on and on about a personal issue with a belligerent intern. She couldn’t believe someone so far down on the pecking order would act as if he was the CEO of the company. Whenever the meeting was redirected back to real issues something triggered her upset and again she was off and running. The drama was causing squirming and eye rolling. Have you ever been in a meeting like that? Everyone is frustrated and yet no one will say anything. If “time is money” this meeting was hemorrhaging into a negative financial situation. Here is what finally happened. Someone familiar with patterns took the bull by the horns and said “Hey, this intern stuff would make a great sitcom; maybe we could sell it to Saturday Night Live”. That’s when the awkward silence settled over the room. No one knew where to go with his comment and the pattern interruption. Did you ever count the forever seconds when silence covers a room like a thick fog on a sultry summer night? It felt like seven days before this same guy said “Look, we all have people issues, it comes with being in business. I hoped to break the drama with what I have learned as a “pattern interrupt”, you know to shock to the system to see things differently. So, how did I do?” Awkward silence again. Why is it so hard for most of us to tell the truth? What would have been in the...
GUTSY Women and Attachment Parenting

GUTSY Women and Attachment Parenting

Time magazine May issue started a major brouhaha that is hopefully the beginning of a great dialogue about what it means to be a parent and what children really want and need. For me, the photo of the mother and three year old son at his mother’s breast brought up the controversy from decades ago about nursing moms. I was a “thoroughly modern Millie” who, along with most of my peers, saw nursing as a primitive, overly emotional aspect of parenting. After all, formula was easy and healthy…. or so the marketing ads told us. Now most of us realize we were duped into the economics of the baby food industry. There is enough research that indicates breastfeeding is the truest, healthiest way for infants to get both nutrition and nurturing. The big question women are asking right now about attachment parenting is when is enough, enough? What are positive boundaries and what is best for the growth and development of our young? Here are two important books to review. One is by an old friend, Joseph Chilton Pearce, who wrote this in the 1970’s and is still an important source of information “Magical Child”. The other is fresh off the press and again, food for thought; “Bringing Up Bebe” by Pamela Druckerman. My own suggestion is to consider what really matters. How much do I.Q. scores really mean? How vital is it for kids to be on varsity sports teams? What do we do when children say they are bored? Where do computers fit into our lives and their lives? Working or staying at home, the issues are...