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Read, Repeat. Remember

I was busy getting our new CEO website ready with the most amazing web designer, Hilary Brooks (www.smallbizwebwhiz.com) . It will be ready next week so we’ll keep you posted. I was working on the content for CONSULTING and was looking at what we teach when we go into various companies. One thing that struck me right between the eyes is how limiting our educational system is and how we need to pick up the pieces in the workplace. Think about how you learned to THINK when you were in school. More to the point, did you learn to THINK in school? Better yet, at what age did your ability to THINK past the obvious shut down? I was always a voracious reader and still am. Yet, when it came to classes and tests, I did what all the other kids did, I learned to READ, REPEAT and REMEMBER. That’s it, the “3 R’s”. I was good at this and so I was always in the top quadrant of my classes. Yet, I ask you, is that learning? Better, is that learning to THINK? Hardly! Now I am busy relearning to read for essence. Fortunately, I do not have to take tests to pass classes now. And I really think that repetition of what we read makes us “sheeple” rather than individuals. I love to talk with the author of the non-fiction books I prefer. Now, these invisible men and women come alive for me as I challenge and ask questions and listen to the answers that go beyond the written word. Interesting, I remember more from having this...

Leadership and Proper Boundaries

Are school teachers only meant to teach children spelling, calculus, and ancient history? Or are they also meant to be role models for how to behave as youngsters grow and become the next generation of business men and women?   We put these young people in schools to prepare them for the world of work. We hope the learning in school is both for skills as well as interpersonal relationships. So, what happened last week in New Jersey is particularly upsetting.   There was an internal memo sent through the teachers union that was “meant to be a joke”. It was far from funny, far from even the bad, lowly humor of kids who like to joke about body smells and soils.   This “joke” talked about wishing for the death of the Governor because of budget cuts. I would like to hear from those of you willing to respond; have we gone too far, have we crossed too many bridges, past any sense of personal adult responsibility to watch what we say and how we express our upsets and dissatisfactions?   Governor Christie said it well, “Honest disagreements are fine. I wonder what the children of New Jersey will think when the leadership of the teachers union is praying for their governor to die?”   I wonder when we are all going to GROW UP and take real responsibility for our behavior? We are all like little kids, living in the moment without any regard for consequences. Grown-ups are able to see how our thoughts, feelings, words, and actions connect. We are able to put past actions and...

Need for Leadership

The torment for the parents of the young suicide victim, the children who are accused of causing the horrific situation, the parents of all these children, the school officials, in fact, all children, parents and teachers in the school are in this together.   Yet, as usual they end up standing at polar opposite sides of the scales of justice. This is truly no different that what goes on around the world where there is dissention and fighting. Everyone throws barbs and daggers at one another and the name of the game is BLAME. As an executive business coach and family therapist who has worked with school districts and troubled youth I beg the leadership of the school to find a way to gather the parents together and look more deeply into what is really going on. There is more, much more at the core of this issue than merely “bullying” at school. This is too simplistic an answer. The demand for “leadership” means all the adults who have a stake in the game need to become leaders. Sadly, they will be kept from the real, honest dialogue that needs to occur because the lawyers will keep the polarization going. Their interest is one sided, for their clients.   Yet, somehow, someone needs to yell “STOP” and demand a guided talking time with the parents and then with the parents and the youngsters. The first organization we all join, the family is where we learn about fairness, favoritism, bullying, caring, deceit, and betrayal. We take what we learned at home into our next organization, the school and eventually into...