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Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Maybe, just maybe the era of anything goes is ending. Maybe, just maybe the guy with the loud mouth and no couth will be put out to pasture. It’s about time.   I have listened to Mr. Limbaugh, on occasion, to understand his appeal. I have always turned him off with a sense of deep sadness. Oh sure, he has made millions. However, inside that large frame is a tortured little child who is screaming out to be heard by being outrageous and throwing hissy fits. Maybe those who adore him are also stuck at the age of…. well, possible two or three. Time to grow up. Click here to read Rupudiating Limbaugh: A Matter of Integrity, No Politics By Menachem Rosensaft Sylvia Lafair’s comment: Well said. However there is one small edit. President Obama did not stand up on the side of “the weak” when he called that “strong” young woman, Ms. Fluke to speak with her. I believe he was merely underlining what needed to be said, that we will not accept disrespect and that the world is changing to be more decent.The Rush Limbaugh’s of the world are living on borrowed time and will soon be silenced by disdain. Their form of “any press is better than no press” is getting old and stale. The patterns of anything goes behavior that has been around for decades is ready to transform to truth telling (it’s always OUR OWN truth) with dignity. What I teach in my Total Leadership Connections Program is that “telling the truth is NOT spilling your guts”! It is a disciplined art form that...

Workplace Conflict, Madonna, and the “Digitus Impudictus”

Most workplace conflict is contained in a room, or maybe behind closed doors. Not so on Super Sunday when Madonna starred in her half time show ending with a vision of “world peace”. A gazillion people watched. So, what was with someone hired to come over from the UK to dance and sing who simply had to show that middle finger. For what purpose? This was a perfect example of workplace conflict, of inappropriate boundaries, of the need to be seen and heard, no matter what the cost. Rather than use her name and give her more publicity, I would like to bring up the question: what part of an individual is so starved for attention they will behave badly just to be seen? It seems that the rule today is that any publicity is better than no publicity. Recently I was on a television program called “The Girls.” I was asked to talk about how men and women behave differently when in stressful meetings. It was lots of fun and I saw the power of having a captive audience where any moment, any movement could be seen and dissected by a lot of people. It is a responsibility not to be taken lightly. The need to sensationalize is strong in many individuals who, I guess, are empty inside. They get off on extreme attention and are the drama queens and kings with no understanding of healthy boundaries. I hope Madonna, as the boss of her show, brings this woman to task. It would be so easy to want to respond with her own “digitus impudicus”. Yet, as a...

The Whole Enchilada

This is a country founded on freedom of speech. Often it seems to go too far in disrespect, even wanting to destroy the credibility of others (just watch the Presidential campaign)! However, the peaceful protest at the Rose Parade brings in a dimension that has excellent possibilities for healthy change in our society. I’d love to hear your comments to my comment at the end of the HuffPost article. Click Here to Read:  Protesters Occupy The Rose Parade By, Anna Almendrala and Kathleen Miles, both reporters of Huffington...

Need for Leadership

The torment for the parents of the young suicide victim, the children who are accused of causing the horrific situation, the parents of all these children, the school officials, in fact, all children, parents and teachers in the school are in this together.   Yet, as usual they end up standing at polar opposite sides of the scales of justice. This is truly no different that what goes on around the world where there is dissention and fighting. Everyone throws barbs and daggers at one another and the name of the game is BLAME. As an executive business coach and family therapist who has worked with school districts and troubled youth I beg the leadership of the school to find a way to gather the parents together and look more deeply into what is really going on. There is more, much more at the core of this issue than merely “bullying” at school. This is too simplistic an answer. The demand for “leadership” means all the adults who have a stake in the game need to become leaders. Sadly, they will be kept from the real, honest dialogue that needs to occur because the lawyers will keep the polarization going. Their interest is one sided, for their clients.   Yet, somehow, someone needs to yell “STOP” and demand a guided talking time with the parents and then with the parents and the youngsters. The first organization we all join, the family is where we learn about fairness, favoritism, bullying, caring, deceit, and betrayal. We take what we learned at home into our next organization, the school and eventually into...

Playing OUT Patterns

Sandra Bullock and Jesse  James have put Tiger and the other philanderers on the back page. Soon their story will be replaced by another couple that can’t make it (i.e. the relationship) work. Image by John Griffiths via Flickr   Why are so many people obsessed with what happens when a partner derails and is caught in secrets and lies? What makes us look for the roadmap for relationships in the media? Are celebrities better equipped to handle the stresses and anxieties that plague all human beings at one time or another?   Obviously we all want to see how they will handle the stings and arrows of betrayal, deceit, and poor judgment. We idealize and we are disappointed. Tiger Woods looks so good in his golf shirt, the Nike swoosh somewhere on his attire. How, most of us wondered could he be such a cad!   Then we look at all American girl Sandra Bullock. She is certifiably gorgeous, my goodness, she’s also a great actress winning an Academy Award. How could she be so naïve to have her husband screwing around while she is working so hard?   Let’s peel this back a moment. My book in process is “Don’t Bring It to Love: Breaking the Family Patterns that Limit Intimacy”. It explores how easy it is to get trapped in old behavior patterns that were played out by our parents and are subtly handed to us like a fine set of china or a coat of arms.   In both Tiger Woods and Jesse James background there were fathers who had affairs when the sons were...

Real Leaders Practice Safe Stress ™

  Stress and anxiety have been at the boiling point for the last year, and depending where you live, the weather has been the proverbial icing on the cake.   As a leader in a company, your health is vital to keep the engines of your business revved and going smoothly. Sadly, when stress hits the hot button, most of us forget about eating right, sleeping soundly and exercising regularly.   More and more, usually fit executives are putting on weight, which can drive insulin levels up, causing worries about diabetes. Grabbing that handful of pretzels or peanuts for lunch or feasting on cold pizza day after day, you increase the chances of higher blood pressure.   Research indicates that losing your job can send your health spiraling downwards. Even more complicated is the fact that those whose jobs are safe feel the impact and also are having cardiac and other stress-related symptoms.   Eating, sleeping, exercise; most executives know what to do, and in easier times, do it. So, what can we learn from these complex times? The first question is: how do we maintain a healthy attitude?   Attitude is the driver!  And attitude is more complex that just having a positive outlook. It means learning how to stay in the “Safe Stress Zone™ ” and learning how to create a work setting that is not too extreme in being too flexible or too rigid. In “Don’t Bring It to Work”  there are tips and tools for leaders to create a balanced setting for your workforce.   You can also send an e-mail to maryjane@ceoptions.com, and we...