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Prioritize!

Prioritize!

When your technical skills are great and you really care about your constituents you should be getting lots of kudos for your work. Right? Well…not so fast. Number one is, you MUST prioritize your RELATIONSHIPS. So often people skills are what creates a limiting career path. Now, what exactly do I mean? I mean YOUR personality may be the limiting factor. Here is an example: Jim, the head of client services in a large company was in charge of buying and placing new furniture for the open space casual meeting area. There was a team meeting and the team decided what they wanted. Hear me…the TEAM DECIDED. They even picked the fabric colors and decided how to have the furniture lend in a soothing way with the colors of the walls. All well and good. Almost! Then Jim, who took being the head of client services to heart, spent time rethinking the plan. He called the team together with his new ideas. They voted and still wanted what they had picked. After all, this was a TEAM DECISION. New furniture was delivered and placed in the open space, for, oh about a month. Jim hated the way it looked. He called some maintenance men to change this furniture with some that was in a long forgotten work room. How did his team handle this? Was there a conflict resolution meeting? Did Jim lose his job? Was there a battle of the decorating mavens? None of the above. Jim became the butt of many jokes, some funny, some vicious, some clever. Was that the end of it? Not quite. When...
Women Leaders: We Do NOT have More Time to be Silent

Women Leaders: We Do NOT have More Time to be Silent

Rachel Carson who wrote a book of major importance “The Silent Spring” was a GUTSY woman who spoke out about the level of toxins in our world 50 years ago. Those numbers are higher and the risk more deadly. Someone recently commented that with all the toxins in the world we are living longer so why worry. Interesting point of view. Do yourself a favor and get a copy of Carson’s book. It is as relevant, actually more so, than 5 decades ago. Please read the following blog and my response. And remember, those who remain silent are guilty too.   She Was Right By: Arianna Huffington (originally posted on www.huffingtonpost.com) Fifty years ago, a marine biologist named Rachel Carson began publishing a series of articles in The New Yorker, sounding the alarm about the dangers of exposure to chemicals and the failure of the chemical industry and government regulators to protect people from those dangers. Later collected in the book Silent Spring, Carson’s prescient insights are the subject of an anniversary feature this week by HuffPost’s environmental reporter Lynne Peeples. She delivers not only a tribute to Carson but a reminder that her work is more relevant than ever. Despite Carson’s warnings, our leaders are still not doing nearly enough to regulate the potentially harmful chemicals we’re exposed to every day. As Lynne notes, more than 80,000 chemicals currently used in our country have never been fully tested, so we don’t even know how damaging they might be to humans or to the environment. And as Harvard Medical School’s Eric Chivian explains, when it comes to determining if...
Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Maybe, just maybe the era of anything goes is ending. Maybe, just maybe the guy with the loud mouth and no couth will be put out to pasture. It’s about time.   I have listened to Mr. Limbaugh, on occasion, to understand his appeal. I have always turned him off with a sense of deep sadness. Oh sure, he has made millions. However, inside that large frame is a tortured little child who is screaming out to be heard by being outrageous and throwing hissy fits. Maybe those who adore him are also stuck at the age of…. well, possible two or three. Time to grow up. Click here to read Rupudiating Limbaugh: A Matter of Integrity, No Politics By Menachem Rosensaft Sylvia Lafair’s comment: Well said. However there is one small edit. President Obama did not stand up on the side of “the weak” when he called that “strong” young woman, Ms. Fluke to speak with her. I believe he was merely underlining what needed to be said, that we will not accept disrespect and that the world is changing to be more decent.The Rush Limbaugh’s of the world are living on borrowed time and will soon be silenced by disdain. Their form of “any press is better than no press” is getting old and stale. The patterns of anything goes behavior that has been around for decades is ready to transform to truth telling (it’s always OUR OWN truth) with dignity. What I teach in my Total Leadership Connections Program is that “telling the truth is NOT spilling your guts”! It is a disciplined art form that...

Workplace Conflict, Madonna, and the “Digitus Impudictus”

Most workplace conflict is contained in a room, or maybe behind closed doors. Not so on Super Sunday when Madonna starred in her half time show ending with a vision of “world peace”. A gazillion people watched. So, what was with someone hired to come over from the UK to dance and sing who simply had to show that middle finger. For what purpose? This was a perfect example of workplace conflict, of inappropriate boundaries, of the need to be seen and heard, no matter what the cost. Rather than use her name and give her more publicity, I would like to bring up the question: what part of an individual is so starved for attention they will behave badly just to be seen? It seems that the rule today is that any publicity is better than no publicity. Recently I was on a television program called “The Girls.” I was asked to talk about how men and women behave differently when in stressful meetings. It was lots of fun and I saw the power of having a captive audience where any moment, any movement could be seen and dissected by a lot of people. It is a responsibility not to be taken lightly. The need to sensationalize is strong in many individuals who, I guess, are empty inside. They get off on extreme attention and are the drama queens and kings with no understanding of healthy boundaries. I hope Madonna, as the boss of her show, brings this woman to task. It would be so easy to want to respond with her own “digitus impudicus”. Yet, as a...

Can Bullying be Passive Aggressive?

She smiled sweetly and said she understood what was needed for the product in her territory to sell better. She wrote down what was said in the sales meeting. She had a list of places to call and people to meet. Yet nothing happened. Her boss had stomach aches and sleepless nights. He would fall asleep with the memory of that sweet smile and the promises of success. He was at an impasse. When he finally had THE MEETING, the one to tell her she was being let go, the room suddenly felt like an August day at the beach. He shed his wool sweater, even though the snow was still falling outside his window. He kept hearing the word “bully” in his mind. Who was the bully? He was responding in a kind yet direct manner. She was an under performer and it was costing the firm money. Finally, he heard the word out loud, from her mouth “You, Sir, are a bully and this is not the last of it. You will hear from me.” She turned and smiled that sweet smile. She had one hand on her hip, the other on the doorknob and said, “You have been out to get me for a long time and don’t think I haven’t been keeping records. You’ll see. Just you wait, you’ll see”. With that she slammed the door, hard. He sat at his desk feeling like he had been smacked across the face with a board embedded with nails. At that moment, he had a new definition of a bully; one who plays the game, never intending...

The Whole Enchilada

This is a country founded on freedom of speech. Often it seems to go too far in disrespect, even wanting to destroy the credibility of others (just watch the Presidential campaign)! However, the peaceful protest at the Rose Parade brings in a dimension that has excellent possibilities for healthy change in our society. I’d love to hear your comments to my comment at the end of the HuffPost article. Click Here to Read:  Protesters Occupy The Rose Parade By, Anna Almendrala and Kathleen Miles, both reporters of Huffington...