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Women Leaders: We Do NOT have More Time to be Silent

Women Leaders: We Do NOT have More Time to be Silent

Rachel Carson who wrote a book of major importance “The Silent Spring” was a GUTSY woman who spoke out about the level of toxins in our world 50 years ago. Those numbers are higher and the risk more deadly. Someone recently commented that with all the toxins in the world we are living longer so why worry. Interesting point of view. Do yourself a favor and get a copy of Carson’s book. It is as relevant, actually more so, than 5 decades ago. Please read the following blog and my response. And remember, those who remain silent are guilty too.   She Was Right By: Arianna Huffington (originally posted on www.huffingtonpost.com) Fifty years ago, a marine biologist named Rachel Carson began publishing a series of articles in The New Yorker, sounding the alarm about the dangers of exposure to chemicals and the failure of the chemical industry and government regulators to protect people from those dangers. Later collected in the book Silent Spring, Carson’s prescient insights are the subject of an anniversary feature this week by HuffPost’s environmental reporter Lynne Peeples. She delivers not only a tribute to Carson but a reminder that her work is more relevant than ever. Despite Carson’s warnings, our leaders are still not doing nearly enough to regulate the potentially harmful chemicals we’re exposed to every day. As Lynne notes, more than 80,000 chemicals currently used in our country have never been fully tested, so we don’t even know how damaging they might be to humans or to the environment. And as Harvard Medical School’s Eric Chivian explains, when it comes to determining if...
What do you do when you are ignored?

What do you do when you are ignored?

Did you ever sit in a restaurant and wonder if you had a snake on your head, or maybe a bird’s nest, or a mouse, or if your face had turned bright blue? You sit there and question why the server is taking so long to get to your table. It looks like everyone else is getting attention. Your meal drags on and on.  When you finally get your food, it is put in front of you with a grunt. You accept it with a groan. Some of us eat as fast as we can, get the check and get out, vowing never to enter the place again. Some of us chew every morsel and sit longer than usual just to see what, if anything will happen next. You question:  Should I leave a tip?  Do I seek out the manager? The way you handle poor service is a great indicator of the behavior patterns that you developed watching your parents maneuver through the courtesies and discomforts of going to the market, going to a clothing store, going to a restaurant, going just about anywhere. What do you do when people are discourteous? And on the other hand, how do you reward excellent service? Here is what happened at the eatery. I called the waitress aside and told her I thought she had been rude. I gave her an out by suggesting maybe she was unaware of it. What happened next was powerful. She took my hand and apologized. She told me she had just flunked a final exam and would have to go to summer school. She was...
First day of summer and stress

First day of summer and stress

Today officially marks the first day of summer. I don’t care that the ads have made it the end of May. This is official: longest day/shortest night…solstice. And man, is it hot on the east coast. Now that school is out and the new schedules are in place and the heat is up and the desire to just have fun is the summer requirement, what does that do to stress? Is summer a less stressful time? Is it easier since we can be outside more often and longer? Can we get away from our inner demons by throwing a Frisbee or playing golf or lounging in a tepid pool? Actually, stress is lessened in the warmer months… for many. And yet!!! if your internal patterns, you know those behaviors that have carried over from childhood are not observed, understood and transformed…..they will haunt you on the golf course, at the beach, even sipping a cool beer on your front porch. Did you know that 90% of visits to primary care physicians are due to stress? That stress causes physical ailments like indigestion, headaches, and backaches. Do yourself a favor. Take the Pattern Aware Quiz on my website and then call us. We can offer you the way OUT of the old and into the new. Call at 570-636-3858 and we will offer some tools and techniques so you can learn to practice safe stress and have the fun this summer you...
Pattern Interrupted

Pattern Interrupted

It truly is all in the eyes of the beholder. I was at a business meeting and the leader of the team went on and on about a personal issue with a belligerent intern. She couldn’t believe someone so far down on the pecking order would act as if he was the CEO of the company. Whenever the meeting was redirected back to real issues something triggered her upset and again she was off and running. The drama was causing squirming and eye rolling. Have you ever been in a meeting like that? Everyone is frustrated and yet no one will say anything. If “time is money” this meeting was hemorrhaging into a negative financial situation. Here is what finally happened. Someone familiar with patterns took the bull by the horns and said “Hey, this intern stuff would make a great sitcom; maybe we could sell it to Saturday Night Live”. That’s when the awkward silence settled over the room. No one knew where to go with his comment and the pattern interruption. Did you ever count the forever seconds when silence covers a room like a thick fog on a sultry summer night? It felt like seven days before this same guy said “Look, we all have people issues, it comes with being in business. I hoped to break the drama with what I have learned as a “pattern interrupt”, you know to shock to the system to see things differently. So, how did I do?” Awkward silence again. Why is it so hard for most of us to tell the truth? What would have been in the...
GUTSY Women and Attachment Parenting

GUTSY Women and Attachment Parenting

Time magazine May issue started a major brouhaha that is hopefully the beginning of a great dialogue about what it means to be a parent and what children really want and need. For me, the photo of the mother and three year old son at his mother’s breast brought up the controversy from decades ago about nursing moms. I was a “thoroughly modern Millie” who, along with most of my peers, saw nursing as a primitive, overly emotional aspect of parenting. After all, formula was easy and healthy…. or so the marketing ads told us. Now most of us realize we were duped into the economics of the baby food industry. There is enough research that indicates breastfeeding is the truest, healthiest way for infants to get both nutrition and nurturing. The big question women are asking right now about attachment parenting is when is enough, enough? What are positive boundaries and what is best for the growth and development of our young? Here are two important books to review. One is by an old friend, Joseph Chilton Pearce, who wrote this in the 1970’s and is still an important source of information “Magical Child”. The other is fresh off the press and again, food for thought; “Bringing Up Bebe” by Pamela Druckerman. My own suggestion is to consider what really matters. How much do I.Q. scores really mean? How vital is it for kids to be on varsity sports teams? What do we do when children say they are bored? Where do computers fit into our lives and their lives? Working or staying at home, the issues are...
Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Maybe, just maybe the era of anything goes is ending. Maybe, just maybe the guy with the loud mouth and no couth will be put out to pasture. It’s about time.   I have listened to Mr. Limbaugh, on occasion, to understand his appeal. I have always turned him off with a sense of deep sadness. Oh sure, he has made millions. However, inside that large frame is a tortured little child who is screaming out to be heard by being outrageous and throwing hissy fits. Maybe those who adore him are also stuck at the age of…. well, possible two or three. Time to grow up. Click here to read Rupudiating Limbaugh: A Matter of Integrity, No Politics By Menachem Rosensaft Sylvia Lafair’s comment: Well said. However there is one small edit. President Obama did not stand up on the side of “the weak” when he called that “strong” young woman, Ms. Fluke to speak with her. I believe he was merely underlining what needed to be said, that we will not accept disrespect and that the world is changing to be more decent.The Rush Limbaugh’s of the world are living on borrowed time and will soon be silenced by disdain. Their form of “any press is better than no press” is getting old and stale. The patterns of anything goes behavior that has been around for decades is ready to transform to truth telling (it’s always OUR OWN truth) with dignity. What I teach in my Total Leadership Connections Program is that “telling the truth is NOT spilling your guts”! It is a disciplined art form that...