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Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Rush Limbaugh Being Told to “SHUT UP”

Maybe, just maybe the era of anything goes is ending. Maybe, just maybe the guy with the loud mouth and no couth will be put out to pasture. It’s about time.   I have listened to Mr. Limbaugh, on occasion, to understand his appeal. I have always turned him off with a sense of deep sadness. Oh sure, he has made millions. However, inside that large frame is a tortured little child who is screaming out to be heard by being outrageous and throwing hissy fits. Maybe those who adore him are also stuck at the age of…. well, possible two or three. Time to grow up. Click here to read Rupudiating Limbaugh: A Matter of Integrity, No Politics By Menachem Rosensaft Sylvia Lafair’s comment: Well said. However there is one small edit. President Obama did not stand up on the side of “the weak” when he called that “strong” young woman, Ms. Fluke to speak with her. I believe he was merely underlining what needed to be said, that we will not accept disrespect and that the world is changing to be more decent.The Rush Limbaugh’s of the world are living on borrowed time and will soon be silenced by disdain. Their form of “any press is better than no press” is getting old and stale. The patterns of anything goes behavior that has been around for decades is ready to transform to truth telling (it’s always OUR OWN truth) with dignity. What I teach in my Total Leadership Connections Program is that “telling the truth is NOT spilling your guts”! It is a disciplined art form that...

Battling Women and Windmills

In our Total Leadership Connections program we teach participants to go beyond the obvious, that leadership in any field requires deep thought; superficial considerations are merely not enough. Recently asked what I thought about all the brouhaha around actor/director Mel Gibson’s racist and venomous comments to ex-girlfriend and mother of his child I decided to do some research. Based on what I teach, how we either stand on the shoulders of the past or repeat it, I have a whole new understanding of what I think may be going on with this famous celebrity. Stay with me for a minute while I take you back to Mel’s ancestry, no not as far back as Bravehart, just to his father Hutton. Mel’s father, a devout Catholic has his own website where he tackles what he sees as the hypocrisy of his church in modern times. He also is a conspiracy theorist and a holocaust denier. I began to wonder how this man became so polarized in his thinking; we have to be taught to hate, it is not our natural state of being. I decided to dig deeper. You may have a hard time tying together what I am saying; it is counter-intuitive in the world we live in, which is fraught with dichotomies. If so, please find more information in “Don’t Bring It to Work” or you may contact me at Sylvia@ceoptions.com. Okay, here we go. One of the most vital aspects of our development has to do with crises; what I call hardening of the emotions. In Hutton Gibson’s life there were many. His mother died when he...

Bad Behavior at Home, School, Work

Image by ihtatho via Flickr Bullying is an art form not dissimilar to caring. It takes persistence, practice, and purpose.   What does that really mean? It means that all behaviors become patterned responses if we do them consistently. There is a law in neurology, Hebb’s Law that states “neurons that fire together wire together”. So, if we practice it enough, if we see it modeled enough and then practice it, we become it!   The present stir around bullying in schools is good. It raises the conflict to an important level of awareness. That is the beginning of an important dialogue. Now, how do we handle this issue?   “Don’t Bring It to Work” shows how the behavior patterns hard wired (after years of practice) become our knee jerk responses. Those who become deniers will ignore conflict at home, at school, in the workplace. Those who see it and find conflict too difficult to handle are the avoiders, the “gotta go” folks who will find a safe place far from the bullying.   What we need to consider is how a persecutor/bully picks his or her victims, is there something in the victim that says I have not learned to stand up for myself, it is not safe. What is the interaction?  And then the interaction leads to the rescuers and the pleasers who want to jump in and either save the victim or side with the bully. This type of conflict is so obvious in all schools and workplaces.   The film “Grease” is a great example. Remember Rizzo? She is that great example of the fact...

Stretch Goals and Human Relationships

There was an excellent article by renowned leadership expert Michael Maccoby in the Washington Post  about the upside and downside of “stretch goals”.   The Olympics, a perfect example of watching individuals and teams push themselves, motivated by the desire to achieve greatness. What Maccoby suggested is that we need to look at the fine line between going toward a vision that is possible and one that can ultimately turn sour.   Thinking about the concept of stretch goals, my mind wandered to some of the costs for the moment of fame standing on the podium to get one of the three medals. I thought about one of the coaches who gave up being with his family to train the children of other people to greatness.   It brought to mind a day many years ago when my daughter had a roommate post-college who had been an athlete in the Olympic Games. She was a beautiful young woman with the strong and lithe body of a swimmer.   It was during the summer Olympics, and we had turned on the television to watch those who were competing for greatness. Diana walked into the room, sat down for a brief moment and then excused herself.   Later that evening she shared the pain and upset she had experienced in training and how her life had been so buttoned down with stretch goals she had no life outside of training and competing.   Her anger began to subside as she talked. We heard about the back story to competing for success as children. She would teach her children to swim, to...

Leadership and Early Adapters

The following video has gone viral and is lots of fun to watch. It teaches some good lessons about the “first follower” as a leader. These early adapters are visionaries in their own right, and help make a movement happen.   In the video, we are talking about dancing at the beach: lots of fun and freedom and spontaneity. I would like to present a question and would love responses from all who are thinking about the ethics of followership.                                 WHO ARE YOU WILLING TO FOLLOW????   We have become so addicted to sound bites and quick, short answers that depth is replaced by clever.   Think about it: dancing on the beach, sure, what the heck, it’s fun, fast and finished.   Now ponder something that has more staying power, more meat to it…….   Would you follow the leader if it polarizes and excludes?  And more importantly, when situations become murky and the movement becomes dissident, out of control, then what? Would you stand up and say “stop?”   Please send your answers to info@sylvialafair.com and receive a copy of my white paper on “Why It’s So Tough to...

Elegant Leadership

  I am so delighted to introduce you to my new blog “Elegant Leadership” that will be posted at http://blog.ceoptions.com/ after the New Year. Since I love to write I will have a more personal blog at www.sylvialafair.com to include thoughts and ideas about relationships, health, and education, as well as business.   Elegant Leadership will include all my newest research concerning leadership. I will suggest the best books, articles, and unique individuals I can find to help you on the difficult daily journey of being the best leader you can be.   Why did I choose the title “elegant leadership”? I honestly think it chose me. I woke up with the term, like a drum beat, repeating over and over in my head. Maybe I had a dream about it, not sure. All I know is,  I love the word “elegant” as it is used in scientific realms. In nature elegant signifies finding the simplest and most precise way of responding.   I looked up the other definitions of the word and they fit my intended blog perfectly. Elegant signifies dignified richness and grace; being luxurious in a restrained, tasteful manner; incisiveness and ingenuity, cleverly apt and simple, as in “an elegant solution to a complex problem”.   What the world needs now are truly elegant leaders who want their work to speak for them, rather than be the media show of the week. They are the ones who quietly find the best solutions without the need for trumpets blaring. They do not have to play “king” they merely want to make their businesses the best they can...