Sylvia Lafair
Do you ever just wish that you could have a moratorium on change? That maybe, just for a month you could count on things staying the same? That you could depend on your work colleagues to show up and do their jobs so you could do yours? That sales would percolate and products get shipped…
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How do we learn emotional intelligence? Can we change our basic nature just by willing it to happen? Here is my response to one of my clients who was so sick and tired of feeling like a bully boss and not sure what to do. Let me know your thoughts too. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I…
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It’s tough to confront people. Well, at least that’s what 90% of the population says. Is your tendency to avoid or even worse, deny, that difficult issues exist at your office? It’s so much easier to blame others for being impossible to work with. We live in a “he did it, she did it, they…
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Stupid leaders are a dime a dozen. What they do looks the same through the centuries. Here’s what Cicero, Roman politician and lawyer who served as consul in 63 BC had to say, “Any man can make mistakes, but only an idiot persists in his error.” Habit #1: Repetition. You know the saying that if you…
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Let’s start with a short quiz: What’s the best thing about workplace success? A. You get more money. B. You get more recognition. C. You get more work. If you answered “A,” you are on the right track. Workplace success usually translates to earning more money. If you’re like most people, you want a financial…
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Power struggles are the essence of great theater (think Hamilton). Yet, if the backstabbing is not squelched, the damage is deadly. Read about Alexander Hamilton and Aaron Burr and their duel. Or better yet, beg, borrow or steal (well, not the latter) and get tickets to see this brilliant play that is basically about office politics…
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How to be confident instead of strong-willed and stubborn so you can get unstuck at work. I received the following email that got me thinking about how complex it is to be confident when you feel you’ve been blind-sided. Here’s what was said…. “I had my performance review last week and it was awful. When…
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What if you’ve gone too far in your comments about someone? What if you’ve been called out for being excessive in challenging others in a meeting? What if you have been shunned after you mocked a colleague? Our world of extremes is starting to backfire. Don’t get caught in the tidal wave of seeing how…
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You as a leader must think about and understand how to look at your decision making… Leadership today relies on astute decision making. Life moves so fast there’s little room left for mistakes. How much time have you spent really, I mean really, looking at how you make decisions? Here’s a clue to why so…
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Facts are married to emotion. As a leader, it’s your job to ask the right questions that lead to what the key issues are. The natural tendency for most people is to deflect the real reasons for hurt and feeling discounted. It’s the emotions that will resolve the conflict, not just the facts. Here’s what happens in…
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