Conflict Competence: The Answer to Your Stress

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021

Stressed out? Conflict competence is the solution. Read on to learn more… Dear Dr Sylvia,   I have a question and I need more than just an answer.  I need a solution.  I need an action plan.  If you can do that, I will follow you forever.  If not, I will delete you and look elsewhere.  Are you up for the…

Why You Procrastinate (And 7 Ways to Stop)

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021

You may think there are a lot of reasons why you procrastinate, but it really comes down to one ugly underlying habit: people pleasing. Here’s how to stop. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  It took me weeks to finally press the “send” button on my email to you with my dilemma. This is embarrassing for me to admit out loud. Here’s…

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How to Become Conflict Competent

By Sylvia Lafair | February 24, 2021

Anyone can become conflict competent. Yes…even those who argue ALL THE TIME. Here’s how to do it. Dear Dr Sylvia,  I have been fighting with everyone lately. That includes my boss, my spouse, my kids, my assistant, my co-workers, even the check- out guy at the supermarket.  I should not complain.  But I must!  You…

Office Romance Stress: What’s Love Got To Do With It? (Plus: A FUN Quiz)

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021

Office romance stress? I’ve seen it ALL before. Here’s my advice… Dear Dr. Sylvia, I always thought I loved complexity and challenges in my life. Not sure anymore. Why? Here’s what’s going on and I need some good advice. I am in a new relationship. That’s all good. It keeps me as blissed out as…

How to Transform: What Leaders Can Learn From a Lobster

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021

Knowing how to transform doesn’t always come easy. Here is my advice, borrowed from some of our crustaceous friends in the sea… Dear Dr. Sylvia, My life is so confining. I want to explore the world and yet, now is obviously not the right time. I feel like I have been spinning my wheels doing…

What Does It Mean To Be A Boss? It’s not just what you were taught in school

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021

#leadership #conflict resolution # team development Dear Dr. Sylvia, You can congratulate me. Now that is over with, you can hand me a box of tissues and let me bring on the tears, or at least the desire to yell. Here’s the back story: I was the best salesperson in my division, actually in the…

Reaping the Rewards of Giving and Getting

By Sylvia Lafair | December 23, 2020

Dear All, During this time of complexity and confusion, there are stories of growth and transformation that are great lessons to take into the new year. That is the focus of this post, how to be the best leader you can be during these frustrating times. I want to respond to many of the emails…

How to Create Psychological Safety for Those Around You in Turbulent Times

By Sylvia Lafair | December 19, 2020

Hi everybody! Sylvia Lafair here, with some tips for leaders in times of stress. Think about leaders you’ve known in your life that you have felt you could follow anywhere or those who looked at and said, “I’m out of here.” There’s a big difference and what happens is, as leaders we need to practice,…

Stress & Mixed Messages: How to Stop the Maddening Communication from Messages that Are Inconsistent and Unclear

By Sylvia Lafair | December 19, 2020

Hi everybody! Sylvia Lafair here. Today, I’d like to talk about stress and mixed messages. When stress gets high, mixed messages get even higher, and I was thinking about when I was raising my daughters, and you know, I did mix messages. I’m sure most of you can relate to this one. I’d say, ‘Go…

Can An Apple Change the World?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 16, 2020

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I just finished the most delicious apple that I sprinkled with some cinnamon and brown sugar. Did you know that cinnamon is really good for you? It can help stabilize blood pressure and keep your mood from fluctuating like a roller coaster.  Who knew? With more time at home than ever, I…

I Am Filled with Self-Doubt

By Sylvia Lafair | December 9, 2020

Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am filled with self-doubt. I am wondering if this is just a “gal thing” or do the males of the world also worry about their abilities, about the way they come across to others?  So many I talk with (once we break the ice of superficiality) are competent executives and directors who…

Look… We’re All Human, Right?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2020

Dear Dr. Sylvia, Look, we’re all human. Right? We all have good and bad personality traits. Right? We all change and grow as we become more seasoned leaders. Right? And in this uncertain and complex world, we all need to give each other some slack and help each other become the best we can be.…