I was sitting having a quick dinner in Manhattan with some colleagues. The place was packed and the noise level high. Just a typical 6:30 p.m. time of workplace decompressing, after one of those typical rush and get it done days.
At the table to the left we heard “No one should be forced to share as much as they do here. They think they are creating a culture of trust. It’s just a bunch of bull.”
To the right, “Why the heck can’t they just get with the program and stop complaining all the time? What a bunch of whiners.”
Another table not far where they were getting very vocal and physically flinging hands around, “They actually force us to admit failure and what we don’t like about ourselves. Nasty stuff! We just want to get our jobs done and get to our beer time.”
One of my colleagues shrugged and said “Not much has changed in all the years we have been working. Still bitch and complain and judge and attack. When will it ever change?”
Blame it on our belief systems, blame it on our parents, blame it on our culture.
Or maybe stop the blame and say, “It will stop with me” or better yet, “It will start with me.”
So, what do we stop and what do we start?