New Year, New You…
Isn’t that what most of us want to believe?
That if we start each year with a boatload of positive promises to ourselves, well, at least a few will stick, and we will be better people at the end of the year.
Here is another way to think about this very promising month of January 2018.
That there will be ONE, that’s all, just ONE area of concentration to make change happen.
I suggest you do the following…
Go back and look at one person who you find annoying. It can be a parent, your boss, a sibling, a co-worker, a neighbor. Come on, I bet you can find that someone who makes your insides curdle.
Step 1: Now, sit quietly and observe what it is about them that makes you want to scream or tell them to “zip it” or find a way to get as far from them as possible.
Step 2: Put your hand on your gut (read my INC article about your second brain) and sit quietly as you let yourself go back to another time when you had that same feeling of discontent or anguish or concern and see what shows up. It may be with someone else from earlier in your life.
Step 3: Put the puzzle pieces together. Realize that what is bothering you in your present relationship may well be residual feelings from an earlier time in your life.
Step 4: Begin the transformative journey to rethink the relationship with Mr. or Ms. Annoying. Yes, you can see the present person differently. Don’t give up.
Step 5: Be courageous and have a real, heartfelt conversation before the month of January is over. No, you don’t have to tell them you had prior thoughts about what a jerk he or she is (make that was). Just that you would like a more positive and healthy relationship as the year moves forward.
Do this once a month and I guarantee that by the end of 2018 you will have a fan base that will amaze you, as well as more powerful and productive personal and professional relationships.
Want to do a deeper dive into great relationships? Read my book, “Don’t Bring It To Work” as well as Eugene Gendlin’s book “Focusing” for more information about the way OUT of old, ingrained behavior patterns that get in the way of success.
Here’s to a profitable and positive year.