In this post, I’m pondering the thought of what is the most valued gift for the holidays?
This is the time of year for both fun and family. Yet, sometimes, the two words don’t really go together.
Wouldn’t it be better if when you sit around the family table you were supported and delighted? And, even better, that you could support and delight those with whom you share a deep common bond?
And equally important did you ever think about the fact that so many of the patterns from how you behave with your relatives are carried from the family table to the meeting table at work.
Think of it this way, there are structural similarities between families and workgroups. Bosses can resemble parents and co-workers can feel like siblings. You get a salary, kinda like an allowance, and there are performance improvement plans that look like those frustrating ‘time outs’ we all experienced as kids.
This is the season for GUTSY women and BOLD men to look at the behaviors that get in the way of success. What better gift for the holidays than having a caring and even carefree holiday time where the most valued gift you can give to others is……YOU.
Here are my thoughts on what is needed along with the fun of giving and getting presents:
It’s your presence.
Yes, your presence. That means showing the very best of who you are and how you relate to those both around the family and the conference table.
Here is my thought for the holidays:
“It’s not about survival of the fittest.
It’s about how we can all survive and be fit”
In this unprecedented time when world stress is so high, I implore you to look for methods to support your biological family and your work family in new ways. In my books, Don’t Bring It To Work and GUTSY: How Women Leaders Make Change I help you recognize the 13 most common patterns from childhood that show up in all adult relationships. I help you gain skills to diminish conflict (not get rid of it, that’s impossible) just make it manageable and shorten the time of distress.
Answer this. Are you a pleaser, avoider or rescuer?
These examples of learned patterns are painfully annoying and simply don’t work. Once you learn the secrets of relationship systems by observing your outdated survival mechanisms you can harness and transform them. Then you can make optimal decisions and be a positive resource for family, friends, and colleagues at work.
And if you buy either book, I’d like to gift you with a copy of the Pattern Aware Success Guide or the GUTSY Success Guide Book.
These books will help you learn to change patterns, one day at a time. It works.