What are those whispered words that haunt you even when no one is talking? These words show up at the most annoying times. They’re the ones that live in your head, like uninvited guests you can’t get rid of.
Each of you, yes, you, and you, and you, have certain stuck phrases. And no matter what you do, they just won’t go away.
- Which phrases resonate with you?
- You really aren’t that smart
- No one thinks you are good looking
- You better shut your mouth right now
- You better make us proud
- Who do you really think you are
- You’re not fooling anyone, just zip it and do your job
Do you get depressed, anxious, frustrated, or confused when you hear those voices reminding you of your past failures, mistakes, and wrong moves? What about the voices in your head fill you with self-doubt? Do they make you feel like an imposter (even if you are heading a prestigious team)? Do you question your leadership skills? Are you filled with stress, staying up at night second-guessing yourself?
If none of this applies to you, that’s great. You can stop reading and do something fun. However, for the rest of you, including me, stay tuned.
That poor battered inner child lives in each of us. And no, you don’t have to spend years and years in therapy to make the kid inside dance and sing.
Here is the way OUT:
- Observe where the stuck places are and who drives you to the brink
- Understand who was the culprit in your past
- Transform those annoying patterns from the past
Look, the behaviors used as a defense against hearing you were not good enough are there as survival mechanisms. They worked, didn’t they? You know they worked, ’cause, after all’cause, after all, you’re still here.
YET, now those ways of responding are more harmful than helpful. Do you still avoid, deny, procrastinate, please, rebel?
There’s a better way.
Here’s a choice. You can read my award – winning book Don’t Bring It To Work or you can sign up for a career assessment session to help you figure out the next steps. Either way you will get help to tame that voice inside. Look it helped you survive but it won’t help you thrive.
Memories haunt you if not tended to. Live your best life possible by saying “they will stop with me†and start finding a new and better way of responding today and into the future.
To your success,
Sylvia
