Leadership Education and Transformation: Is Change Worth the Effort Or Not?

By Sylvia Lafair | May 10, 2022

Summary: Transformation is in vogue right now. Here are ideas to help you decide what to decide. Be careful what you ask for, you may just get it. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am a Senior Vice President of a very successful retail furniture company. However, I have lost my mojo. I want to quit and…


By Sylvia Lafair | May 3, 2022

Summary: Do you know that many bosses can be seen as work- mothers? It’s universal and essential to realize this is a complex role that gets in the way of long-term success. Here are some ideas to ponder. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have a mother; of course, we all do! I am also a mother…

Leadership Skills to Stop the Maddening Communication from Mixed Messages

By Sylvia Lafair | April 26, 2022

Summary: When stress gets high, mixed messages go even higher. Here are some ways to stay in the “safe stress zone” when you get inconsistent and unclear messages. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am an intelligent vice president at a very sophisticated marketing company. I guess I shouldn’t brag. However, it’s the truth. Most importantly, I…

Needed Now: YOU As A Positive Force In The Workplace

By Sylvia Lafair | April 19, 2022

Summary: What does it take to be a positive force in the workplace? Stress and conflict are at an all-time high. I’ve been getting so many calls about conflict at work and even in communities. Here’s how to be a positive contributor at work. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Are we becoming a more argumentative society, or…

The New Normal: Adapt or Perish!

By Sylvia Lafair | April 12, 2022

Summary: The question every leader asks these days is: “What is the new normal?” Not just about days in the physical office but also about how we behave with each other. “The times, they are a-changing,” is correct. Here’s how to adapt. Dear Dr. Sylvia, As a leader, I am concerned about how to help my…

It’s Time to Transform Splitters into Peacemakers

By Sylvia Lafair | April 5, 2022

Summary: There is so much disagreement in today’s world. Much of it is due to the behavior pattern of separating people into being “for” and “against” each other. Do you know a splitter (or are you one)? Here are ways out of the tangled web that causes the split for hate and even war to…

Emotional Flexibility in This Time of Constant Change 

By Sylvia Lafair | March 29, 2022

Summary: The more adept you are in being emotionally flexible, the more adaptable you can be in your leadership role.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  This one is personal. I had a very difficult situation occur with my stepdaughter and she wants to break all ties with me.  I know from reading your books that you suggest…

The Three Areas of Adaptability for Today’s Complex World 

By Sylvia Lafair | March 22, 2022

Summary: The saying “adapt or die” sounds stark and scary. However, it is a truth that we all need to consider as we explore what it means to be adaptable.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  My staff is driving me nuts. I know I created a giant, hairy monster by giving them a say in when everyone…

Here’s How to Erase the Obstacles to Change and Adaptability

By Sylvia Lafair | March 15, 2022

Summary: Change is coming faster than ever before. The whole world seems out of control. While change is unsettling, the process of adapting from now to new is vital for future success. Here are some methods to move forward.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I keep vacillating from denying my negative emotions, staying positive, and stating that…

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What To Do When You Feel Overwhelmed and Frustrated

By Sylvia Lafair | March 8, 2022

Summary: If you have ever felt overwhelmed and frustrated, you’ll relate to what my coaching client said. When you feel overwhelmed mistakes will happen. Dear Dr. Sylvia, “I had a fender bender on the way to work because I was late and rushing; I tripped going on the up escalator. (Who the heck ever stumbles…

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Are Self-serving Narcissists More Prevalent Now?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 1, 2022

Summary: Everywhere you look, people are taking sides at the expense of how their behavior impacts those around them. You best be careful, and please don’t feed the narcissist beast. Here are the signs. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I did it again! Yup, seduced by a fast-talking marketing gal. I signed up for an expensive program…

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Leadership SOS: How Can We Release The Pattern Repetition of Divide and Conquer Sweeping the World?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 22, 2022

Summary: How do we, as leaders, work with the constant behavior patterns of hate and division now sweeping the world. Here are some thoughts, especially about the younger generations. I received this email today, and it took me back to a video I posted in 2020 after the George Floyd situation. The video I made…