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Leadership Education and Transformation: Is Change Worth the Effort Or Not?

By Sylvia Lafair | May 10, 2022 |

Summary: Transformation is in vogue right now. Here are ideas to help you decide what to decide. Be careful what you ask for, you may just get it. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am a Senior Vice President of a very successful retail furniture company. However, I have lost my mojo. I want to quit and…

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Your BOSS Is NOT Your MOTHER

By Sylvia Lafair | May 3, 2022 |

Summary: Do you know that many bosses can be seen as work- mothers? It’s universal and essential to realize this is a complex role that gets in the way of long-term success. Here are some ideas to ponder. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have a mother; of course, we all do! I am also a mother…

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Leadership Skills to Stop the Maddening Communication from Mixed Messages

By Sylvia Lafair | April 26, 2022 |

Summary: When stress gets high, mixed messages go even higher. Here are some ways to stay in the “safe stress zone” when you get inconsistent and unclear messages. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am an intelligent vice president at a very sophisticated marketing company. I guess I shouldn’t brag. However, it’s the truth. Most importantly, I…

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It’s Time to Transform Splitters into Peacemakers

By Sylvia Lafair | April 5, 2022 |

Summary: There is so much disagreement in today’s world. Much of it is due to the behavior pattern of separating people into being “for” and “against” each other. Do you know a splitter (or are you one)? Here are ways out of the tangled web that causes the split for hate and even war to…

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Emotional Flexibility in This Time of Constant Change 

By Sylvia Lafair | March 29, 2022 |

Summary: The more adept you are in being emotionally flexible, the more adaptable you can be in your leadership role.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  This one is personal. I had a very difficult situation occur with my stepdaughter and she wants to break all ties with me.  I know from reading your books that you suggest…

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Here’s How to Erase the Obstacles to Change and Adaptability

By Sylvia Lafair | March 15, 2022 |

Summary: Change is coming faster than ever before. The whole world seems out of control. While change is unsettling, the process of adapting from now to new is vital for future success. Here are some methods to move forward.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I keep vacillating from denying my negative emotions, staying positive, and stating that…

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Creative Energy Options

Are Self-serving Narcissists More Prevalent Now?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 1, 2022 |

Summary: Everywhere you look, people are taking sides at the expense of how their behavior impacts those around them. You best be careful, and please don’t feed the narcissist beast. Here are the signs. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I did it again! Yup, seduced by a fast-talking marketing gal. I signed up for an expensive program…

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Leadership Lesson: Careful, The Art and Craft of Seduction is Everywhere

By Sylvia Lafair | February 15, 2022 |

Summary: It’s easy to be flattered. The big question is, how do you respond to all the bells and whistles coming your way? Here’s what to know, so you don’t get scammed. These days everyone is talking about the newest hits on Netflix. One is a charming male who seduces unsuspecting females (watch The Tinder…

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Overwhelmed? We All Are!

By Sylvia Lafair | January 11, 2022 |

Summary: What do you do when plans are derailed and there is no light at the end of the tunnel? Here’s what to do with feeling overwhelmed. Did you ever want to lash out at someone and instead yell at your ever-faithful dog? Or, make nasty comments to your indoor plants for demanding attention. as…

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How to Go From Mad to Glad During The Holidays

By Sylvia Lafair | December 7, 2021 |

Summary: Anger management is vital, especially during the holidays when everyone feels over-stressed. Here is one way to find out where your upset began. So, let me ask you? What do you do when you get foot-stomping angry? Maybe you kick a big rock (ouch). Perhaps you pound your hand on a desk (ouch)? What…

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