Patterns

What Happens to Your Team Under Pressure?

By Sylvia Lafair | September 8, 2026 |

Summary: Your team may look terrific when everything is going well. People collaborate. Meetings are cordial. Deadlines are met. Everyone talks about trust, transparency, and “being one team.” Then the pressure hits. A major client threatens to leave. Revenue falls short. AI changes someone’s role. Instead of doom and gloom, here is a better way…

Satya Nadella and the Leadership Skill AI Can’t Replace

By Sylvia Lafair | September 3, 2026 |

Summary: What happens to leadership when artificial intelligence can analyze faster, process more information, and produce answers in seconds? Perhaps the answer is surprisingly simple: We have to become more human, not less. Microsoft’s CEO has something to teach us about empathy, self-awareness, and human leadership in the age of AI. Satya Nadella, Chairman and…

The Most Dangerous Sentence in the Workplace: “That’s Just How I Am.”

By Sylvia Lafair | September 1, 2026 |

Summary: There’s a sentence I’ve heard in executive team meetings, family businesses, and coaching conversations for decades: “That’s just how I am.” That sentence is almost guaranteed to shut down conversation and creativity for good. Here is another way to think and respond. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My leadership team is stuck in an “either/or” argument…

Still Playing Hide-and-Seek? What You’re Hiding May Be Running Your Life

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2026 |

Summary: Remember playing hide-and-seek? You covered your eyes and counted to ten. Everyone ran. Someone squeezed behind the sofa. Someone crawled under the bed. And there was always that one kid who found such a brilliant hiding place that everyone eventually forgot where they were. Then came the words, “Ready or not, here I come!”…

How to Deal With a Toxic Boss: Stop Labeling the Person and Start Looking at the Pattern

By Sylvia Lafair | August 18, 2026 |

Summary: You know the feeling. Your boss walks into the meeting, and your stomach tightens. Or perhaps you have an idea, but you hesitate before speaking. Tension comes in many flavors, from yelling and passive-aggressive comments to the silent treatment. Eventually, someone says the words everyone has been thinking: “We have a toxic boss.” Maybe…

You Change Your Underwear Every Day, So Why Are You Still Wearing the Same Old Patterns?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 12, 2026 |

Summary: Let’s start with a question that you don’t get asked often, if ever: When was the last time you changed your underwear? Hopefully, this morning. Most of us wouldn’t dream of wearing the same underwear day after day. We also replace worn-out socks, buy new shoes, upgrade our phones, and trade in cars that…

Stop Calling People Toxic. Start Looking for the Patterns.

By Sylvia Lafair | August 4, 2026 |

Summary: We hear these phrases everywhere. “She’s toxic.” “He’s impossible.” “Stay away from people like that.” Social media is overflowing with advice about identifying toxic people, avoiding toxic relationships, and eliminating toxic employees. Sometimes that advice is necessary. Abuse, manipulation, and repeated harmful behavior should never be ignored or tolerated. But what if the label…

AI Is Getting Smarter. Are You? The Leadership Advantage AI Will Never Replace

By Sylvia Lafair | July 28, 2026 |

Summary: Artificial intelligence is evolving at breathtaking speed. It can analyze data in seconds, summarize meetings, draft presentations, predict trends, and even coach leaders through difficult conversations. Tomorrow, it will do even more. Yet one question remains: If AI keeps getting smarter, what becomes the greatest competitive advantage for leaders? Read on to find out.…

When Great Leaders Cry: What Lionel Messi Taught the World About Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | July 23, 2026 |

Summary: Millions of people around the world watched Lionel Messi walk off the field after Argentina’s heartbreaking 1-0 extra-time loss to Spain in the World Cup Final. For just a moment, the cameras caught something that statistics never can. A tear rolled down his cheek, and that single tear may become one of the most…

Pattern Intelligence: The Leadership Skill Abraham Lincoln Used Before There Was a Name For It

By Sylvia Lafair | July 16, 2026 |

Summary: Why do some leaders keep solving the same problems over and over while others seem able to transform an entire culture? The difference is often not intelligence, but pattern intelligence, or the ability to notice the invisible dynamics beneath visible behavior. It means recognizing recurring emotional, relational, and organizational patterns before they become crises.…