Summary: Pay attention to those glimmers, good or bad, that you can feel in your gut. They are there to direct you to make changes so you don’t get stuck in overwhelm and burnout. These glimmers are like an internal GPS helping you navigate a positive life path. These glimmers are game changers. Find a work culture that supports the human being not just the bottom line.
Dear Dr. Sylvia,
I finally listened to that GLIMMER, you know, that movement in my gut that said something needs to change.
For almost a year I would go to bed on Sunday night feeling sad, sick to my stomach, and angry.
I worked in an environment that treated us like surfs. Of course, It’s not as bad as being a slave, although it is close!
For instance, there was no real creative freedom. Our boss told us what to do day after day. It was stifling.
Nevertheless, I finally found the courage to submit my resignation two weeks ago.
Most importantly, it was a decision that has given me some peace and comfort.
All thngs considered, when I told my boss, the CEO, it was as I expected—no questions as to why, no comments about my work. I simply received a meager fake smile and a “Hey, I wish you well.”
This company doesn’t even have an exit interview with HR.
I believe more people must pay attention to their Sunday night feelings. As you teach, if an upset happens only once, it is an annoyance. Twice, it is a concern. By the third time, it’s a pattern to be changed.
In addition, from your Total Leadership Connections course, I have finally learned to stop making excuses, listen to my head, heart, and gut, and then take action.
Thank you for sharing so much insightful information. It needs to be out there for more employees to learn. As you say, “excuses are for people stuck in fear.”
In brief, I feel healthier, stronger, and ready to take on the world in a new, improved way.
In the same vein, my family is also laughing more and enjoying the calmer home environment.
Signed,
Freedom for ME
When there is upset at work, it also impacts those you live with and love.
Dear Freedom for ME,
Congrats on taking the risk of making a change for your own health and well-being.
Yes, we do get gut glimmers that help us find a better path forward—if we just listen.
I learned early on that stress and disappointment at work can have a devastating impact on more than just the unhappy individual.
For me, it was my father’s sudden death from a heart attack when I was fourteen.
He was in a business I have come to understand was fiscally sound yet emotionally bankrupt.
The story continues. He came home that fateful day, and told my mother, “I’m done!”
He added, “There is just too much negativity and I don’t know what to do about it..”
Sadly, the next day, my mother, brother and I were in shock as we planned a funeral instead of a promised trip to Manhattan.
All I ever heard was that my dad died from extreme stress. True or not, that is what I believed.
Get a coach to help you handle the daily stressors at work. You’ll be glad you did.
I eventually became a leadership coach to help individuals and teams learn how to handle the stress of their work setting and, if necessary, leave if positive change doesn’t happen.
In many workplaces, conflicts arise from clashing cultures that are never discussed or help to change.
Teams argue, gossip spreads, and everyone has an opinion—yet results are dismal.
Disharmony at work can drain energy, stifle innovation, and eats into profits.
But you can turn that friction into fuel for growth.
By bridging these gaps and fostering an inclusive culture, you can transform tension into a driving force for innovation and profitability.
This shift isn’t just about reducing tension, it’s about leveraging differences to drive success.
Here is a synopsis to look at when the gut glimmer hits and you are not sure what to do.
Moreover, when team members learn to respect and align their diverse perspectives, innovation flourishes, and profits follow.
Above all, we must stop the cycle of constant conflict. Build a culture that pays off.
Please, Freedom seeker, let me know how you do in a new job.
For detailed insights on making this shift, you can explore the full article here.
To your success,
Sylvia Lafair
PS. What decisions have you made in your career when the culture clashes at work were over the top? How have you handled the stress and disappointment? I would love to hear from you.
