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From Bitter to Better: How to Transform Workplace Drama into Growth

By Sylvia Lafair | March 3, 2025 |

Summary: This is a tale of workplace conflict and redemption that shows you ways to make real change happen. Enjoy it and use it in your own work life. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am so tired of fighting with my colleagues at work. My pattern is “the clown.” I make funny jokes (at least, I…

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Breaking the Cycle: How Patterns Shape Workplace Tension

By Sylvia Lafair | February 26, 2025 |

Lisa’s response to Greg wasn’t just a moment of emotional intelligence—it was a shift in a long-standing workplace pattern. If she had reacted with defensiveness, their conflict would have deepened, reinforcing a cycle of hostility. Instead, by stepping back and choosing curiosity over combat, she disrupted the dynamic. This is what pattern awareness is all…

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Accountability vs. Empty Cheerleading

By Sylvia Lafair | February 6, 2025 | Comments Off on Accountability vs. Empty Cheerleading

Why Words Without Action Fall Flat Summary: Social media is flooded with motivational quotes, teammates cheer each other on, and friends offer endless support. But when it comes to real progress, there’s a stark difference between being a cheerleader and having a sense of accountability. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My CEO recently hired a new Chief…

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How to Stop Stress: Step From Self-doubt to Self -aware and finally to Self-confident

By Sylvia Lafair | January 20, 2025 | Comments Off on How to Stop Stress: Step From Self-doubt to Self -aware and finally to Self-confident

Summary: Stress is a multifaceted and annoying creature. One of the deepest holes to dig out of is self-doubt. Yes, it takes a willingness to look inside yourself for the why and the where that feeling of not being good enough began. Here are some thoughts on taming your own stress monster. Dear Dr. Sylvia…

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How to Be Your Best Self in 2025: Don’t Waste Your New Year Resolutions

By Sylvia Lafair | December 30, 2024 | Comments Off on How to Be Your Best Self in 2025: Don’t Waste Your New Year Resolutions

Summary: Ah, the New Year. The time when we all gather ‘round and try to figure out how we will turn into superheroes overnight. You know, with those resolutions that promise to transform us into versions of ourselves that could probably bench-press a car and perform ballet in our sleep. But here’s a thought: what…

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The Importance of Presence Over Presents

By Sylvia Lafair | December 24, 2024 | Comments Off on The Importance of Presence Over Presents

Summary: It’s easy to equate showing love and appreciation with giving physical gifts. Presents can be thoughtful and meaningful. However, something far more valuable cannot be wrapped or tied with a bow: your presence. Here are some things to think about. Dear Dr. Sylvia, When all the “oooh’s and ahhha’s” after unwrapping the special gifts…

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Fathers, Sons and The Power of Acknowledgement

By Sylvia Lafair | June 13, 2024 | Comments Off on Fathers, Sons and The Power of Acknowledgement

Summary: This is in honor of Father’s Day. It explores how men help boys grow to be the best they can be. It’s never too late to use the power of acknowledgment. Then, father-son relationships become a solid base for health and well-being. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have heard you say many times that women…

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In Pursuit of Excellence: 2024 Is THE Year for Professional and Personal Well-being

By Sylvia Lafair | December 24, 2023 | Comments Off on In Pursuit of Excellence: 2024 Is THE Year for Professional and Personal Well-being

Dear All, Firstly, my hope and wish for 2024 to be a year of new beginnings. The dawn of 2024 invites us all to transcend the ordinary, inspire innovation, and forge new paths. This means we can create positive power that resonates far into the year. Next, that means less unnecessary conflict and division. Isn’t…

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Leadership Tips: Here are 2 Words To Avoid At Work, at Home, and Everywhere

By Sylvia Lafair | February 1, 2023 | Comments Off on Leadership Tips: Here are 2 Words To Avoid At Work, at Home, and Everywhere

Summary: Words are powerful. Some can lead you to success. Others will get in the way and keep you stuck in old, outdated behavior patterns. Be careful of the two vital words discussed here. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I resolved to communicate more effectively this year. Time is moving quickly, and I still feel I will…

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Leadership Programs for Everyone: “Write It To Right It” For Productivity and Success 

By Sylvia Lafair | October 3, 2022 | Comments Off on Leadership Programs for Everyone: “Write It To Right It” For Productivity and Success 

Summary: You can alter your narrative about any situation to enact positive lasting change. You do this when you shift the blame, judgment, and negativity that get in the way of success. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am not a believer in magic.   Let me explain. Sometimes I think you make suggestions that are impossible to…

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