Confidence

glimmers on christmas

GLIMMERS on Christmas Day: When the Light Shows Up Anyway

By Sylvia Lafair | December 25, 2025 |

Glimmers on Christmas are small signals of safety, warmth, and meaning. Learn how noticing them supports resilience and emotional presence.

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hope can survive

Hope Can Survive During This Christmas Time (Even When It’s Complicated)

By Sylvia Lafair | December 23, 2025 |

When the holidays feel heavy, hope can survive. A compassionate reflection on loneliness, grief, divorce, and finding steady ground at Christmas.

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Speak Up Like a Leader: Your Responsibility Is to the Room, Not Just Your Ego

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2025 |

Learn how to speak up in toxic leadership cultures, address bully bosses, and communicate truth with clarity, dignity, and real influence without fear or fallout.

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fear of finding out

The Leadership Blind Spot: Fear of Finding Out, and What It Costs You

By Sylvia Lafair | December 15, 2025 |

FOFO, or fear of finding out, keeps us stuck in avoidance, denial, and distraction—making small issues grow bigger. Learn how to recognize the subtle signals, regulate your nervous system, and take brave, manageable steps to face the truth and reclaim your agency.

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how wise leaders survive

How Wise Leaders Survive the Holidays (and Don’t Lose Their Minds, Their Teams, or Their Health)

By Sylvia Lafair | December 10, 2025 |

Learn how business leaders survive holiday stress with clarity, and ways to protect energy, support your team, and lead wisely.

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the next big shift in leadership

The Next Big Shift in Leadership Development: Stop Guessing and Start Leading with Confidence

By Sylvia Lafair | November 20, 2025 |

Summary: Let’s get one thing straight: you, as a leader, don’t need more theories. Or frameworks. Or another shiny workbook that sits gathering digital dust. You need integration. That elusive moment when the light bulb goes on, and it stays on long enough for behavior to actually change. You can do it as long as…

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A leader breaking through barriers, symbolizing the emotional and strategic challenges of leading change with courage and empathy.

When Pushing Boundaries Feels Like a Battle (But You Know It’s Right)

By Sylvia Lafair | October 30, 2025 |

Summary: Every leader who has ever driven meaningful change knows this moment: you’re pushing forward, stretching the system, and the resistance hits like a wall. It’s not subtle. You can feel it in the silence after you speak, in the sideways glances, in the sudden reappearance of “that’s not how we’ve always done it. And…

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Are You Living Your Best Life? It’s Not a Hashtag, It’s a Choice

By Sylvia Lafair | August 7, 2025 |

Summary: The phrase “living your best life” has been hijacked by surface-level nonsense. Let’s reclaim it. Living your best life means confronting the behavior patterns that still influence you. It means saying no to outdated roles (such as rescuer, martyr, or avoider) and saying yes to leading with purpose and clarity. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Today…

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Man being kicked out of door.

When Yelling Erupts at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | May 1, 2025 |

How to Handle Conflict Without Losing Your Cool If you’ve ever been the recipient of someone’s work meltdown, especially when the volume turns to eleven, it is disorienting. You freeze, fume, or fantasize about quitting on the spot. But here’s the truth: conflict is inevitable. How you handle it is optional. Let’s look at handling…

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Man hiding from fear of losing job

Fear of Losing Your Job: How to Turn Panic into Power

By Sylvia Lafair | April 29, 2025 |

Summary: Fear of losing your job can bury or build you. Which one are you choosing? Our economy is like the biggest roller coaster in an amusement park. However, while fear of losing your job can cause screams, it’s not fun. Nobody gets a lifetime guarantee stamped on their paycheck. Fear is natural—it’s what you…

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