Conflict Resolutions

Satya Nadella and the Leadership Skill AI Can’t Replace

By Sylvia Lafair | September 3, 2026 |

Summary: What happens to leadership when artificial intelligence can analyze faster, process more information, and produce answers in seconds? Perhaps the answer is surprisingly simple: We have to become more human, not less. Microsoft’s CEO has something to teach us about empathy, self-awareness, and human leadership in the age of AI. Satya Nadella, Chairman and…

How to Deal With a Toxic Boss: Stop Labeling the Person and Start Looking at the Pattern

By Sylvia Lafair | August 18, 2026 |

Summary: You know the feeling. Your boss walks into the meeting, and your stomach tightens. Or perhaps you have an idea, but you hesitate before speaking. Tension comes in many flavors, from yelling and passive-aggressive comments to the silent treatment. Eventually, someone says the words everyone has been thinking: “We have a toxic boss.” Maybe…

The Courage to Lead with Self-Awareness: The New Zealand Connection

By Sylvia Lafair | July 31, 2026 |

Summary: When people think of strong leaders, they often picture someone who is loud, commanding, and always certain. But some of the most effective leaders possess a different kind of strength. Here is what a more mature leader does. Former New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern demonstrated that leadership begins with self-awareness. She showed the…

When Great Leaders Cry: What Lionel Messi Taught the World About Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | July 23, 2026 |

Summary: Millions of people around the world watched Lionel Messi walk off the field after Argentina’s heartbreaking 1-0 extra-time loss to Spain in the World Cup Final. For just a moment, the cameras caught something that statistics never can. A tear rolled down his cheek, and that single tear may become one of the most…

What To Do When Someone Shuts Down the Conversation

By Sylvia Lafair | July 21, 2026 |

Summary: Every successful company reaches a moment when difficult conversations must happen; a new strategy, major investment, leadership change, growing financial concern, difficult employee, etc. Healthy organizations don’t avoid these conversations. Instead, they lean into them. But what happens when a person in leadership shuts the conversation down? The greatest danger in leadership isn’t disagreement;…

Pattern Intelligence: The Leadership Skill Abraham Lincoln Used Before There Was a Name For It

By Sylvia Lafair | July 16, 2026 |

Summary: Why do some leaders keep solving the same problems over and over while others seem able to transform an entire culture? The difference is often not intelligence, but pattern intelligence, or the ability to notice the invisible dynamics beneath visible behavior. It means recognizing recurring emotional, relational, and organizational patterns before they become crises.…

How to Know If You’re Truly Self-Aware: Key Signs for Leaders

By Sylvia Lafair | June 30, 2026 |

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool.” — Richard Feynman Summary: Everyone talks about self-awareness. It has become one of leadership’s favorite buzzwords. Executives say they value it. Organizations build training programs around it. Coaches promise to develop it. Yet the intentions fall short…

Strategy Is Logical. Stress Is Biological.

By Sylvia Lafair | June 23, 2026 |

Summary: Most leadership problems are not caused by a lack of strategy. They are caused by stress. Organizations spend millions teaching communication, conflict resolution, and decision-making skills. Yet when pressure rises, even smart leaders often react in ways that surprise themselves. Why? Because strategy is logical, and stress is biological. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am…

The GLIMMERS Glow™: What Happens When Self-Awareness Becomes Contagious

By Sylvia Lafair | June 16, 2026 |

Summary: Most leadership programs teach skills, like how to communicate better, manage conflict, and improve engagement. All are worthwhile goals, but after more than 35 years working with leaders and organizations, I’ve learned something important—skills alone do not transform culture. Read on to see what matters even more. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My team is efficient…

What Scott Pelley and CBS Can Teach Us About Leadership Under Pressure

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2026 |

Summary: Leadership is easy when everyone agrees with you. It’s much harder when speaking your truth costs you a career position, paycheck, or your reputation. That is why the recent controversy surrounding veteran journalist Scott Pelley and the iconic television program 60 Minutes caught my attention. Read on to learn what telling the truth means…