Leadership Styles

A cartoon-style hand pointing outward through torn paper, symbolizing authority and self-awareness in sounding like my parents at work.

Help! I Sound Just Like My Parents at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | November 6, 2025 |

Summary: You know that moment. You open your mouth, and your mother or father comes out.“Do you think we’re made of money?” or “Turn off the lights; we’re not paying to illuminate the city.” Then,“Because I said so, that’s why!” It happens all the time. Here’s why and what to do about it. Dear Dr.…

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Three glowing purple light beams symbolizing head, heart, and gut alignment in whole-person leadership.

Glimmers, Leadership, and Alignment: The New Trifecta for Whole-Person Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | November 4, 2025 |

Summary: We all know what triggers feel like, those moments when something small sets off a big emotional storm.But what about the opposite? What about the micro-moments that bring you back to yourself? Here’s how head, heart, and gut coherence can turn ordinary leadership into something extraordinary. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am dedicated to helping…

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A professional man juggling glowing orbs symbolizing hypervigilance at work, set against a futuristic background of digital data and analytics.

The Martyr at Work: How Childhood Hypervigilance Shapes Adult Professional Behavior

By Sylvia Lafair | October 23, 2025 |

Summary: Many people grow up in unpredictable homes, where moods shift without warning, where you have to “read the room” to stay safe. In those environments, children often learn hypervigilance: a heightened awareness of potential threats, emotional cues, or shifts in tone. It’s a survival strategy that keeps individuals alert and adaptable. Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

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Are You a Pleaser or Rescuer? Yes, They Are Different

By Sylvia Lafair | October 21, 2025 | Comments Off on Are You a Pleaser or Rescuer? Yes, They Are Different

Summary: Most people who’ve worked with me know that I often trace workplace behavior back to family dynamics. It’s not about blame. It’s about awareness, recognizing how the lessons we learned at home subtly influence our leadership, communication, and relationships. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I always thought I was, like most women, a pleaser. I was…

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Hand catching golden glimmers of light and glitter, symbolizing hope, positivity, and leadership moments.

How GLIMMERS Illuminate The Leader’s Path to Success

By Sylvia Lafair | October 1, 2025 | Comments Off on How GLIMMERS Illuminate The Leader’s Path to Success

Summary: We live in a world full of noise, deadlines, and distractions that pull us away from ourselves. But glimmers are stubborn little messengers of hope. They sneak in anyway. For example, they arrive in a stranger’s smile, the smell of brownies baking in the oven, the sound of wind threading through trees. These signs…

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Breaking Boundaries: The Leader’s Guide to Doing It Right

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2025 | Comments Off on Breaking Boundaries: The Leader’s Guide to Doing It Right

Summary: Family, culture, and tradition: our loyalty to them shapes who we are. But sometimes it cages us. Leaders must know the difference. Most leaders don’t fail because of competition; they fail because of the boundaries they refuse to challenge. Breaking boundaries isn’t about chaos. It’s about progress with purpose. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am…

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A crystal prism on a desk scattering rainbow glimmers of light across business papers, symbolizing leaders trusting glimmers for guidance.

The Spark Leaders Don’t Know They Need

By Sylvia Lafair | September 25, 2025 | Comments Off on The Spark Leaders Don’t Know They Need

Summary: Leadership is often painted as a game of strategy, data, and grit. But ask the best leaders what guided them at critical crossroads, and the answer is rarely found in a spreadsheet. They’ll say, “I just knew,” or “something told me,” or “it clicked in my gut.” Here is why GLIMMERS are so crucial…

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Statues of Greek philosophers sharing coffee, symbolizing dialogue in leadership and the power of listening to understand.

Conversation, Debate, or Dialogue? The Path That Truly Transforms

By Sylvia Lafair | September 15, 2025 | Comments Off on Conversation, Debate, or Dialogue? The Path That Truly Transforms

Summary: It’s easy to confuse talking with connecting. But not all talking is created equal. There are three very different forms of verbal exchange: conversation, debate, and dialogue. And the one that can change the future, at work, at home, and in the community, is the one we practice the least: dialogue. Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

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A tray of neatly decorated cupcakes in an office kitchen, with one noticeably messy cupcake labeled “Good Enough,” symbolizing the hidden cost of settling for good enough for work.

When “Good Enough” Is Not Good Enough at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | September 3, 2025 | Comments Off on When “Good Enough” Is Not Good Enough at Work

Summary: We’ve all been told at some point, “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.” Fair advice when you’re agonizing over the right shade of blue for a website. Dangerous advice when “good enough” becomes the default for leadership excellence, team productivity, and innovation at work. Let’s look beyond “good enough” for productivity and…

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Founding Fathers depicted with historical textures reflecting the leadership patterns that shaped a nation.

How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

By Sylvia Lafair | June 29, 2025 | Comments Off on How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

Summary: Let’s learn from the American Revolution. Rewind to 1776, a time before cable news. Back then, the colonies were a hotbed of unrest, rebellion, and yes… conspiracy theories. But instead of letting these theories spiral into chaos and infighting, the early revolutionaries did something brilliant: they used the momentum to unite the colonies under…

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