Summary: Making the decision to resign from a job is rarely easy, but when your workplace becomes toxic, filled with blaming and judging, it might be the best step for your mental health and career growth. Here’s a guide to recognizing the signs, preparing for the transition, and ultimately handing in your resignation with grace and professionalism.
Dear Dr. Sylvia,
Last week I reached a breaking point.
I was in a meeting with my team leader and the President of the company.
I am always nervous when we meet. Why? Because he is a yeller and talks to us like we are “worthless and not creative.”
This is not the case. We are hard workers and want to please.
We are vital links to make the company successful.
He yells most of the time, and we simply lower our heads and say we will do what he wants.
However, last week the door to the meeting room somehow stayed open and when he yelled and used curse words too often, over thirty people, including someone applying for a job, heard way too much.
One of the employees put on some loud music in an attempt to drown out his tirade.
I left that day and was sick to my stomach.
I talked with my husband and he has been telling me to quit for the past year.
Why do I stay?
Because I always hope it will get better.
Yet, it’s not happening.
Therefore, what can I do to stay?
More importantly, can you give me some ideas about resigning.
Signed,
Sick and Tired
Dear Sick and Tired,
Firstly, let me give you the basic signs of a toxic work place. Then you can think about reasons to resign.
I have worked with many companies where there is toxicity.
However, most of the senior leaders and even presidents will do some personal work to become more effective leaders.
See what you check off to decide how toxic the work environment is at your company.
Recognize the signs of a toxic workplace
- Constant Blame Culture: If mistakes are met with blame rather than constructive feedback, and there’s a perpetual hunt for a scapegoat, this can erode trust and morale.
- Judgment Over Support: In healthy environments, colleagues support each other. In toxic settings, judgment and criticism replace encouragement and collaboration.
- Lack of Communication and Transparency: When information is hoarded or only shared selectively, it creates an environment of distrust.
- High Turnover Rates: Frequent departures can be a red flag indicating systemic issues within the organization.
- Negative Impact on Mental and Physical Health: Chronic stress, anxiety, and other health issues are significant indicators that the workplace environment is harmful.
What to do if you prepare to resign
- Self-Reflection: Assess your reasons for leaving. Ensure it’s the environment, not temporary stress, driving your decision.
- Job Search: Begin looking for new opportunities before handing in your resignation. A secured job will ease the transition.
- Document Everything: Keep records of any instances of harassment, unfair treatment, or other toxic behaviors. This documentation can be crucial if disputes arise.
- Financial Preparation: Ensure you have enough savings to cover your expenses during the job transition period.
- Seek Support: Talk to trusted friends, family, or even a career counselor to help navigate this stressful period.
How to hand in your resignation
- Write a Professional Resignation Letter: Your letter should be concise, polite, and professional. Clearly state your intention to resign and your last working day. Express gratitude for the opportunities you had, without delving into the toxic aspects.
- Choose the Right Time and Place: Schedule a meeting with your manager to discuss your resignation. Ensure it’s a private, calm setting.
- Stay Calm and Professional: During the meeting, remain composed and professional. Avoid venting frustrations or bad-mouthing colleagues.
- Prepare for Reactions: Your resignation might be met with surprise, anger, or attempts to retain you. Be firm in your decision and avoid getting drawn into emotional confrontations.
- Offer Transition Assistance: If possible, offer to help with the transition, such as training a replacement or completing pending projects. This can leave a positive impression and maintain professional relationships.
Moving forward
- Reflect and Learn: Take time to reflect on what you’ve learned from this experience. Understanding what went wrong can help you identify and avoid similar environments in the future.
- Prioritize Well-Being: Focus on activities and relationships that boost your mental and physical health during this transition.
- Seek Positive Work Environments: During your job search, prioritize companies known for positive work cultures. Look for reviews, ask about company culture in interviews, and reach out to current or former employees.
In conclusion, leaving a toxic workplace can be daunting, but it’s a crucial step toward a healthier, more fulfilling career. By recognizing the signs, preparing thoroughly, and handling your resignation with professionalism, you set the stage for a brighter professional future. Your well-being and happiness are paramount, and no job is worth sacrificing them.
To your success,
Sylvia Lafair
PS. Check out my award winning book, Invisible Stress: It’s NOT What YOU Think for more guidance during times of change.
