Business & Life Patterns

Who Handles ANGER Better, Males Or Females?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 8, 2021 |

Does anger win or do you? Do you ever stop long enough to think about anger? When you feel that red hot flame of upset start in your gut, and it soon finds its way to your mouth. Will you react with shouts ? Or swallow you rage and walk away as fast as possible?…

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Can’t Decide? Yes, No, Maybe? Here’s What To Do

By Sylvia Lafair | March 6, 2021 |

How to decide what to decide. Do you get all tangled up inside when you have to make a big decision? Or even a small one? For instance, “The tie comes in blue, red or leopard print. Which do I get?” Another example, “Is hotel A or B best for our summer vacation? Wait, what…

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Crack the Code on Stress Once and Forever

By Sylvia Lafair | March 5, 2021 |

Does being told “Just relax” make you even more stressed out? You can’t seem to hit the target and get your life working the way you want. Does the effect of today’s upsets keep you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Are you stressing out because your worries are so strong they cause a lack of focus,…

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How Do We Help The Men (or should we?)

By Sylvia Lafair | March 3, 2021 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, My question: Are we leaving the men behind? Let me explain. I must hire a new marketing manager for my company.  Here is why I am writing to you: In the past it’s been top heavy with strong, competent men. And the good news is that in the last four years there…

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I Am Filled with Self-Doubt

By Sylvia Lafair | December 9, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am filled with self-doubt. I am wondering if this is just a “gal thing” or do the males of the world also worry about their abilities, about the way they come across to others?  So many I talk with (once we break the ice of superficiality) are competent executives and directors who…

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Common Destructive Behavior Patterns That Can Drive You NUTS, at Work, at Home, Everywhere (and what to do about them)

By Sylvia Lafair | November 3, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia. I hate to complain, but my boss is driving me totally crazy. He is smart and knows the science behind what we do, however, as a leader he is just plain awful. For example, He is always telling us how great he is, how many awards he has won, about how much…

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Elections, Families and Victor Frankenstein

By Sylvia Lafair | October 21, 2020 |

Watching all the back and forth, division and blaming, fear, and concern about this election got me thinking.   Not long ago, on Twitter, someone posted “Whoever goes to the White House will bring along many others with their personal baggage.”  There was no claim as to who would win the election or who they would bring with them. Just a less than 280-character bit…

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I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  Here is my issue. I am beyond frustrated and stressed with my boss who is always saying the same things over and over. He loves to talk about himself and brag about…

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Romancing the Bullies

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia,  Help me understand. My boss is driving me crazy I want to help and be a great colleague, however, what he is doing makes no sense.  He ignores those who want to help him, to be a resource, and make our company great again.  However, he ignores them, and instead he ‘romances’…

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I’m Close to Burnout…

By Sylvia Lafair | September 2, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, This is embarrassing; however, I will stop being like a little kid and fess up. The other night I was beyond exhausted. Too many demands, not enough time. Too many annoyances, not enough pleasure. Too much … well, you get the idea. In any case, I finally dropped into my bed thinking…

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