Business & Life Patterns

Upgrade Your Soft Skills; Needed Now More Than Ever

By Sylvia Lafair | November 30, 2022 |

Summary: The rules of the game of work are changing. We are in the middle of a behavior reframe. Social media teaches us that “if you think it, you should say it,” regardless of consequences. Not true! Here is a better way. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Holiday time is upon us at full speed. For example,…

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Leadership Lessons: How Professionals Use The Stories You Tell Yourselves for Success

By Sylvia Lafair | November 21, 2022 | Comments Off on Leadership Lessons: How Professionals Use The Stories You Tell Yourselves for Success

Summary: When stress hits the hot button, there is often a downward spiral. What you say to yourself causes stress to spike even more. Here’s what to do to prevent a meltdown. Every career has its struggles. We all know that! However, when the negative outweighs the positive, it becomes a trap. What kind of…

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Leadership Lessons: What Do Super Achievers, Rebels, and Leaders Need to Change?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 16, 2022 | Comments Off on Leadership Lessons: What Do Super Achievers, Rebels, and Leaders Need to Change?

Summary: The way OUT of constant conflict is to help your employees learn leadership skills for now and into the future. Systems thinking and releasing outdated behavior patterns are vital for success. Dear Dr. Sylvia, The economy is making everyone cringe, quiver, twitch, and worry. There are more constant conflicts with my staff than ever…

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Guess Which 3 Professions Top The Extreme Stress Scale? (Hint: Lawyers are #2).

By Sylvia Lafair | November 14, 2022 | Comments Off on Guess Which 3 Professions Top The Extreme Stress Scale? (Hint: Lawyers are #2).

Summary: The pandemic showed us where weak spots cause extreme stress and burnout. Here is what to do to recharge your batteries and have less stress. You and I know everyone has a rough day or two or three. That’s when you tell yourself it’s time to take a break, eat a favorite food, and…

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Survival Skills for Attorneys to Bypass Burnout

By Sylvia Lafair | November 7, 2022 | Comments Off on Survival Skills for Attorneys to Bypass Burnout

Summary: All careers have to deal with stress and impending burnout. It doesn’t have to be that way. Here is what attorneys can do to stay positive and healthy. Have you ever complained about feeling burned out? Or has the word overwhelmed become an integral part of your vocabulary? I am not talking about feeling…

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Stress Management and Leadership Programs Should Begin in School, Here’s Why.

By Sylvia Lafair | November 2, 2022 | Comments Off on Stress Management and Leadership Programs Should Begin in School, Here’s Why.

Summary: Instead of respecting differences, we create more division. Here are thoughts on how to create “a perfect union”. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I was at a college football game recently and was hopping mad at the behavior of privileged young adults shouting slurs at the opposing team. It seems like the lack of civility is…

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What Do Hair Stylists, Dentists, and Therapists Have in Common?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 18, 2022 | Comments Off on What Do Hair Stylists, Dentists, and Therapists Have in Common?

Summary: Where does “help others feel good about themselves” fit into your career? Here’s what science says matters most in stress management programs. Here’s the story that was told to me: Meet exhausted Johnathan. The virus was turbulent, and Jonathan and Suzie, his wife, were at their wit’s end. Their six-month-old son was up-all-night crying.…

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Is It Possible to Transform Workplace Conflict, Or Should You Learn to Live With It?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 12, 2022 | Comments Off on Is It Possible to Transform Workplace Conflict, Or Should You Learn to Live With It?

Summary: Leadership programs for everyone have conflict resolution at the top of the list. Here are ways to consider the tensions at work and what leads to creative collaboration. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Firstly, I want you to know I am the senior VP of HR, and I need all the advice I can get to…

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Leadership Programs for Everyone: “Write It To Right It” For Productivity and Success 

By Sylvia Lafair | October 3, 2022 | Comments Off on Leadership Programs for Everyone: “Write It To Right It” For Productivity and Success 

Summary: You can alter your narrative about any situation to enact positive lasting change. You do this when you shift the blame, judgment, and negativity that get in the way of success. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am not a believer in magic.   Let me explain. Sometimes I think you make suggestions that are impossible to…

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Tom Brady, Microsoft Tablets, and Work/Home Relationships 

By Sylvia Lafair | September 27, 2022 | Comments Off on Tom Brady, Microsoft Tablets, and Work/Home Relationships 

Summary: Few things seem more different than the worlds of work and home. However, it is a myth that we can separate them. Stress in one area often tumbles into the other. Here are some tips for creating a better balance.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  Yesterday I did what I now call “A Tom Brady move.”  …

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