Sylvia Lafair

A green sprout growing through cracked concrete on a steep San Francisco sidewalk, symbolizing how curiosity transforms stress into growth.

When Stress Clamps Down, Curiosity Blows the Doors Off

By Sylvia Lafair | July 17, 2025 |

Summary: You know that feeling, your chest tightens, your jaw clenches, and suddenly your to-do list feels like a personal attack. That’s stress! We all relate to stress. Instead of taking the meds, here is another way to pivot the stress factor and feel better faster. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I read your book “Invisible Stress…

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Why Most Leadership Programs Fail, And How Pattern Awareness Changes Everything

By Sylvia Lafair | July 15, 2025 |

Summary: Let’s get right to it: most leadership programs fail. Not because the content is bad. Not because the facilitators lack experience. However, they focus on surface-level skills while overlooking the underlying factors that drive behavior. Der Dr. Sylvia, I would like to persuade my favorite member of our Executive Team to participate in your…

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Navigating Grief: The Impact of the Texas Tragedy

By Sylvia Lafair | July 10, 2025 |

Summary: July 4, 2025, began with hopes of fireworks and fun. It ended in a nightmare. Within mere hours, relentless rains unleashed catastrophic flash floods. Camp Mystic, a girls’ summer camp, became a heartbreaking symbol of this trauma. Here are some thoughts on coping with grief following sudden tragedies. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I live far…

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Stop Giving So Much: Think About Yourself Like a Feather in the Wind

By Sylvia Lafair | July 8, 2025 |

Summary: Are you always giving 110%, but you still feel like you need to prove your worth? You’re stronger than you think, and your persistence is your power. Read on. Dear Dr. Sylvia, It’s exhausting, constantly feeling like I have to do more, be more, just to be seen. I don’t need to be a…

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What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

By Sylvia Lafair | June 30, 2025 | Comments Off on What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

Summary: Flags, fireworks, and food sum up the traditional way Independence Day is celebrated.  Welcome to July 4th. But before we fall into another loop of red, white, and blue, let’s pause and ask the underlying question that the Founders discussed over and over as they planned a new way in the 13 colonies. Dear Dr.…

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How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

By Sylvia Lafair | June 29, 2025 | Comments Off on How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

Summary: Let’s learn from the American Revolution. Rewind to 1776, a time before cable news. Back then, the colonies were a hotbed of unrest, rebellion, and yes… conspiracy theories. But instead of letting these theories spiral into chaos and infighting, the early revolutionaries did something brilliant: they used the momentum to unite the colonies under…

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A dramatic gap between two broken cliffs under stormy skies, symbolizing the communication breakdown and disconnection caused by mistakes leaders make.

Broken Bridges: 7 Trust-Busting Mistakes Leaders Make, and How to Avoid Them

By Sylvia Lafair | June 25, 2025 | Comments Off on Broken Bridges: 7 Trust-Busting Mistakes Leaders Make, and How to Avoid Them

Summary: Trust is a leader’s currency; make sure you don’t go bankrupt. Here are seven ways to consider navigating the complexities of trust. Also, a bonus true story from my executive coaching practice. Dear Dr. Sylvia, In every team meeting, we need to examine how we want to work together. There is a mysterious word…

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An intense close-up of a man's face screaming in fury, his head completely engulfed in flames symbolizing addiction to being right.

Why the World’s Biggest Addiction Isn’t What You Think.

By Sylvia Lafair | June 23, 2025 | Comments Off on Why the World’s Biggest Addiction Isn’t What You Think.

Summary: Let’s call it out. The biggest addiction in the world isn’t sugar, caffeine, alcohol, or your phone.It’s not even power. Let’s discuss what more people are addicted to than anything else. Dear Dr. Sylvia, No matter how many communication and conflict resolution programs we do at my company, there is still way too much…

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The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

By Sylvia Lafair | June 19, 2025 | Comments Off on The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

Summary: Let’s face it, workplaces are loud these days. They are noisy and speedy, not always in decibels, but in energy. Type A individuals are often at the forefront, leading meetings as if their lives depend on it. Then there are the Type B individuals who are not sure how to fit in. Here is…

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Oversharing at Work: When “Being Real” Turns Really Awkward

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2025 | Comments Off on Oversharing at Work: When “Being Real” Turns Really Awkward

Summary: Let’s talk about oversharing. It’s that awkward moment when someone turns a team meeting into a therapy session. You’ve seen it. You’ve cringed. Maybe (gulp) you’ve even done it. Welcome to the land of Too Much Information (TMI) at work. Today’s world of stress has this population growing fast. Dear Dr Sylvia, Why do…

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