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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 | Comments Off on How to declutter your mind and get it organized

Summary: Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Your home and your mind! Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on.   Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I am known as “the boss who is not bossy.”  Indeed, that’s good.…

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How Diversity, Inclusion, and Engagement Move Productivity to a Higher Level

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2020 | Comments Off on How Diversity, Inclusion, and Engagement Move Productivity to a Higher Level

Summary: You can teach prejudice. You can grow and learn too. Here is the story of one woman who helped children become critical thinkers. They developed self-awareness for more fulfilling lives. Firstly, if you do not know who Jane Elliott is, please google her. Then take the time to watch the documentary. Yes, one person…

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7 Ways to “Practice Safe Stress” during times of confusion and chaos

By Sylvia Lafair | March 25, 2020 | Comments Off on 7 Ways to “Practice Safe Stress” during times of confusion and chaos

Summary: Whether you attack or retreat, you remain in the “chasm of chaos” till you find your way to the safe stress zone. Here is the route to get to both safety and success. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I need help. Right now! Can you give me a quick, simple way of handling all the stress…

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How Super Achievers Can Listen to Themselves and Others

By Sylvia Lafair | February 11, 2020 | Comments Off on How Super Achievers Can Listen to Themselves and Others

Before super achievers can listen to themselves or others, they need to know how they got to be so exhausting, annoying, and demanding in the first place.   Here’s how the super-achiever pattern was addressed with a new coaching client, Dan, a Senior VP in a large marketing company that offers leadership development courses for senior executives.  He said this about himself, which much initial pride, “Hey, I always have to be…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 | Comments Off on Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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What to do when life seems out of balance

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2019 | Comments Off on What to do when life seems out of balance

Everyone is telling me this year has more stress and strain than in the past? You agree? “Why,” people are asking, “is life so much more out of balance now?” I must admit, I’m not sure. However, I have a hunch that all the social media stuff is really making us kinda crazy. I was…

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Is it Really the Season of Joy and Fun?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2019 | Comments Off on Is it Really the Season of Joy and Fun?

It’s officially the season of joy and fun…Or is it? We are programmed to be happy, merry, and filled with love and appreciation.  So, why are there so many who have inherited a black cloud filled with rain or snow that clings no matter what? If so, you are not alone.  Make you feel better? It’s good…

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Can people with high emotional intelligence still be assholes?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 29, 2019 | Comments Off on Can people with high emotional intelligence still be assholes?

Here’s a question that comes up way too often. Before I state the question let me set the context.  Do you believe the leaders at your organization are good and positive people? Can you talk with your team and feel there is mutual respect? Have you ever been bullied by a brilliant boss?   Now the question: Can people with high emotional…

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3 Key Ways to Win at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | October 1, 2019 | Comments Off on 3 Key Ways to Win at Work

My work with individuals and groups over the years has helped me to uncover 3 key ways to win at work when you’re feeling frazzled and ready to throw in the towel. Have you found that at one time or another you wanted to stuff a sock in someone’s mouth rather than listen to them…

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How do you stay calm, cool, and collected?

By Sylvia Lafair | July 30, 2019 | Comments Off on How do you stay calm, cool, and collected?

When the heat index goes way into the red zone how do you stay calm, cool, and collected? Here is a composite of the types of emails I have been getting the past month, mostly from the east coast of the U.S. and from much of Europe. It goes something like this: “It’s too hot…

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