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How To Get Heard After You’ve Been Whacked Upside The Head

By Sylvia Lafair | September 23, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know you think that we can all transform our negative patterns. I have my doubts. You see, I read your book…twice! And I still have a serious problem. I took the Pattern Aware Quiz and know I am considered a persecutor/bully. I have worked hard to change my style from being…

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Stuck Plumbing?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 18, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am a newly named director in a major tech company. We have been around for many years and have so many systems in place. However, what cannot be programmed (wish it could be!) are the human beings who surround me. Here is my dilemma: my boss is a mixture of a…

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GUTSY WOMEN For FREEDOM

By Sylvia Lafair | July 1, 2015 |

We all know about George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, and John Hancock. They are reminders of how determined we must all be when freedom is put in harm’s way. I have always wondered about the women of the Revolution. In school all we were taught was that Betsy Ross was known for sewing the American flag.…

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Can BAD People Be Good Leaders?

By Sylvia Lafair | June 30, 2015 |

When Tom was fired from his CEO position there were lots of heads shaking side to side wondering what happened. Tom was a charismatic kind of guy who was always telling funny jokes and encouraging everyone to do the best they could do. He was both cheerleader and coach. So what happened? Let’s face it.…

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Prioritize!

By Sylvia Lafair | June 18, 2015 |

When your technical skills are great and you really care about your constituents you should be getting lots of kudos for your work. Right? Well…not so fast. Number one is, you MUST prioritize your RELATIONSHIPS. So often people skills are what creates a limiting career path. Now, what exactly do I mean? I mean YOUR…

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Can Men Support Women At Work

By Sylvia Lafair | June 11, 2015 |

I have found LinkedIn to be a magical place to connect with some of the smartest and most pioneering individuals on the planet. Recently Ed Gurowitz, Senior Consultant at Gender Allies contacted me after seeing some of my blogs about GUTSY WOMEN LEADERS. He sent me an important post about how to create gender relationships…

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True Leaders Know How To Deal With The Office Jerk

By Sylvia Lafair | June 9, 2015 |

How many times have we been on our way to work dreading that we might bump into the office jerk? You know, that one person that makes you cringe every time you have to walk by their cubicle or office, knowing if they spot you they’re going to invade your space or act offensively. We’ve…

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When Patterns Of The Past Show Up In The Present

By Sylvia Lafair | June 3, 2015 |

I just finished reading a speech Vice President Joe Biden gave at Yale University. It brought tears to my eyes and I was compelled to read it again. This time I grabbed the tissue box, stopped what I was doing and sat wiping freely flowing tears away and sat looking out at the fully blossomed spring…

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Toxic Woman At Work

By Sylvia Lafair | June 2, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, The past few weeks have been like living in a super hot hell. There have been a ton of arguments and drama, mainly because one woman wants her way and is dividing our staff (we only have 20 people working on-site). There is Team A (Suzie’s team) and Team B (my team).…

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What To Do When You’ve Said Too Much

By Sylvia Lafair | May 27, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I read your post yesterday in Examiner.com about anger and by the time I was finished I was sad and depressed. You see, I have come to realize I have a problem with saying way more than is necessary when I get upset. At work, they even sent me to an anger…

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