Why You Procrastinate (And 7 Ways to Stop)

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021 |

You may think there are a lot of reasons why you procrastinate, but it really comes down to one ugly underlying habit: people pleasing. Here’s how to stop. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  It took me weeks to finally press the “send” button on my email to you with my dilemma. This is embarrassing for me to admit out loud. Here’s…

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A Tsunami of Thoughts

By Sylvia Lafair | September 9, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, How does it happen? I already know your answer. I’m still going to ask. How does it happen? I live in Denver Colorado.  Did you know we are having binge weather? It’s like too much one day and then not enough the next. It’s making me crazy to go from a rocky…

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Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, The amount of criticism I’m getting now is above what I can handle. Look, I don’t mind if someone says “Hey, fix the side of your hair, your curls are drooping.” I don’t’ mind if someone says, “Your slip is showing.” That was just a fun mention for last’s week’s blog about Freudian…

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Leadership in a Time of Incivility

By Sylvia Lafair | July 29, 2020 |

Watching the service for John Lewis got me thinking. About civil rights, about politics, about funerals, and mostly about civility. That’s something we have lost in our country. Not only civility, even more, but we have also lost the dream of the United States. Why are we so fragmented today? Why are so many people…

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Can You Remember?

By Sylvia Lafair | July 8, 2020 |

Can you remember the first time words were thrown your way that would bite and sting?  Was it the color of your skin, the shape of your eyes? Perhaps you had a “funny accent” that someone imitated and you stopped talking.  Did you live on the “other” side of town, or wear out-of-style, hand-me-down clothes?  Did you go to…

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The Courage to Change: Diversity, Inclusion, and Engagement

By Sylvia Lafair | June 10, 2020 |

“What’s the big deal! Diversity issues are not new.” That’s what I hear from so many leaders recently. They call to vent and complain. They want an easy answer to this “diversity thing.” They ask if I can create a customized program that will stop the noise and demands from employees and the community.  And,…

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Is There A Common Future?

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2020 |

Here is the BIG QUESTION: What is the destination?  STOP!  Do not answer just yet.  George Floyd’s gruesome death has led us to ask. Covid-19 has caused us to ask.  Those marching in protest, those looting, those salivating for violence, have all come together to lead us down the road, once again, so we have a forum to…

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Diversity, Inclusion and Engagement

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2020 |

Hi everybody! Sylvia Lafair here, and I will keep this short. There are two parts to this that I’d like to guide you to look. First, if you do not know who Jane Elliott is, please google her and please watch the documentary and some of the newer things she’s done. I will tell you…

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Ways to Move Toward OUR COMMON FUTURE

By Sylvia Lafair | June 3, 2020 |

How do you, yes you, engage in the complex time that is upon us all right now?  When circumstances demand change what do you do?  Do you retreat, hoping for the way it was?   Do you want to clear out everything familiar and start from scratch?  Do you complain and blame “them” (whoever that may be)?  Do you want law and…

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What is the new normal?

By Sylvia Lafair | May 27, 2020 |

The question every leader is asking these days is:  What is the new normal?   Back to the office? Part-time at home? Full time at home?  Look, initially, It won’t be business as usual. It will be business as unusual.  We all yearn for physical safety and equally as important we yearn for psychological safety.  Physical safety means nods not handshakes. It means…

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