Conflict Resolutions

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How to Manage Anger at Work, Home, Everywhere 

By Sylvia Lafair | August 30, 2022 | Comments Off on How to Manage Anger at Work, Home, Everywhere 

Summary: What do you do when anger boils over into your relationships? Do you walk away from angry confrontations with ease and grace? Perhaps you are left with hurt feelings, emotional scars, or physical ills. Here are ways to control anger before it becomes a tsunami.   Dear Dr. Sylvia,  These days fill with tension and…

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The Benefits of A Difficult Conversation

By Sylvia Lafair | June 29, 2022 | Comments Off on The Benefits of A Difficult Conversation

Summary: If being judged makes you uncomfortable, here are some ways to structure a feedback session for success. Who do you think has the most challenging time with feedback? Is it the giver or the receiver? Most leadership development programs focus on how the giver, the leader, discusses feedback with the receiver, the employee. The…

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Peace Tools NOT Pistols (or any other weapons of destruction)

By Sylvia Lafair | May 30, 2022 | Comments Off on Peace Tools NOT Pistols (or any other weapons of destruction)

Summary: It is critical to look “upriver” to solve the polarization and violence we are now seeing at work, at home, and in our communities.  Dear …  I am getting so many questions from leaders and emerging leaders about the polarization of our society and the number of attacks on innocent people that I want…

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Leadership Skills to Stop the Maddening Communication from Mixed Messages

By Sylvia Lafair | April 26, 2022 | Comments Off on Leadership Skills to Stop the Maddening Communication from Mixed Messages

Summary: When stress gets high, mixed messages go even higher. Here are some ways to stay in the “safe stress zone” when you get inconsistent and unclear messages. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am an intelligent vice president at a very sophisticated marketing company. I guess I shouldn’t brag. However, it’s the truth. Most importantly, I…

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Needed Now: YOU As A Positive Force In The Workplace

By Sylvia Lafair | April 19, 2022 | Comments Off on Needed Now: YOU As A Positive Force In The Workplace

Summary: What does it take to be a positive force in the workplace? Stress and conflict are at an all-time high. I’ve been getting so many calls about conflict at work and even in communities. Here’s how to be a positive contributor at work. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Are we becoming a more argumentative society, or…

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The NOT SEE Movement, And Critical Thinking: What You Need To Know

By Sylvia Lafair | February 2, 2022 | Comments Off on The NOT SEE Movement, And Critical Thinking: What You Need To Know

Summary: How can leaders respond to the newest round of books banned in schools? What questions can we ask and what happens next? I received an email that sent me into a tailspin. It’s about what children are learning in school. More importantly, it’s about what they are not learning. Here is the email and…

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What YOU Can Do If Your Direct Reports Hate Your Guts!

By Sylvia Lafair | October 12, 2021 | Comments Off on What YOU Can Do If Your Direct Reports Hate Your Guts!

Summary: “I hate my boss” is a common comment in most workplaces. How do you know if you fit the category? Here’s the litmus test. Being a Boss Means YOU Must Handle Conflict at Work You’ve received a promotion. Congrats. You feel confident and ready for the challenge. That is to say, you’re now the…

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4 Distinct Ways to Look at Difficult People You Work With From a New Perspective

By Sylvia Lafair | August 17, 2021 |

Summary: How do you deal with people who drive you nuts at work? Do you complain to HR or ignore them? I agree that Work is NOT a Rehab Facility. There are better ways to keep your staff positive besides just firing those with whom you don’t get along. How leaders handle conflict is a…

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Leaders, Are You Burning Up (Anger) or Burning Out (Exhaustion)? Here’s What To Do.

By Sylvia Lafair | July 28, 2021 | Comments Off on Leaders, Are You Burning Up (Anger) or Burning Out (Exhaustion)? Here’s What To Do.

Summary: As a leader do you shout out your anger or shut it down? Either way can be costly to your health. Soon, overwhelm causes you to shut down. Here are ways to turn your anger inside out and move past the extremes to more effective ways of working together. The energy of anger is…

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Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 26, 2021 | Comments Off on Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

Dear Dr Sylvia, I have been reading a lot about emotional intelligence recently. My first question is, ‘what is emotional intelligence?’ Actually, I think it is about the capacity to control and express oneself and handle interpersonal relationships with ease, Am I right? I think so. Therefore, I would love to hear your answer to…

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