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Who decides when enough is enough?

By Sylvia Lafair | April 22, 2020 | Comments Off on Who decides when enough is enough?

Summary: How many of you have said, “enough is enough?” And you find that while you demand the upset to stop, it just keeps going on and on? This leads to both overwhelm and anxiety.  Here are some tips to help. QUESTION: Who decides when enough is enough?  ANSWER: It depends on the circumstances.  What…

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I Learned to Handle Conflict, You Can Too.

By Sylvia Lafair | April 20, 2020 | Comments Off on I Learned to Handle Conflict, You Can Too.

Summary: Did you ever wonder where your conflict resolution skills developed? It starts with what got your attention (or not) as a kid. Here is good advice for you as an adult. Hi everybody! I was on an interview this morning, and they asked me to discuss behavior patterns and conflict. Above all, the big…

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Create Emotional Environment for Success at Work and at Home

By Sylvia Lafair | March 19, 2020 | Comments Off on Create Emotional Environment for Success at Work and at Home

Summary: Well, we are in it. It is the worst of times. It is the best of times. It’s all how you perceive what’s going on now. Here are some tips to help. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Indeed, I don’t want to make light of what’s happening on our planet now. However, good is available when…

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How Is Good Work Measured in Most Organizations Today?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 4, 2020 | Comments Off on How Is Good Work Measured in Most Organizations Today?

Summary: How do we measure good work in most organizations today? It’s no longer about longevity and loyalty. Nor about being the first in the office and the last out (to show how hard you work). Past are those days to say ‘yes’ to every project, no matter how overwhelmed you become. Let’s drill down…

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How to Change Conflict to Collaboration

By Sylvia Lafair | March 4, 2020 | Comments Off on How to Change Conflict to Collaboration

Dear Conflict Avoider, I’d like to offer a few tidbits about conflict and how to handle that nasty thing that drives us all to hide under the covers. For example, When I was a keynote speaker about conflict, I often asked how many people love competition. I ask that question, and in a room of…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 | Comments Off on Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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The Jerk at Work, Not Me

By Sylvia Lafair | January 29, 2020 | Comments Off on The Jerk at Work, Not Me

Hi everybody! Well, today is one of my favorite subjects, “The Jerk at Work, Not Me”. It’s out there. It’s always out there. We’re never the jerks at work. Are we? Well, you never know, but here’s what I’d like to do. I’m going to give you a sentence that you can use. Craft it…

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Get the BUT Out of Your YES

By Sylvia Lafair | January 29, 2020 | Comments Off on Get the BUT Out of Your YES

Do you ever get frustrated with petty conflicts at work? You’re not alone. A whopping 93% of workers report being affected in a negative manner by conflict.  The other variable is the length of time consumed by on-going, unresolved conflict.  Even worse is the fact that litigation for workplace harassment and hostile work environments has…

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Letting Go of Behavior Patterns That We Developed During Childhood

By Sylvia Lafair | December 17, 2019 | Comments Off on Letting Go of Behavior Patterns That We Developed During Childhood

Hi everyone! I hope you’re having a glorious day even though everything seems overwhelmed and rushed, and we can’t move fast enough, and we can’t please everybody but nonetheless we just keep persevering, right? Except, sometimes we feel submissive compliant filled with self-doubt, create self-sabotage. Those days, everybody does it and what happens is, it…

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Telling the Truth without Spilling Your Guts

By Sylvia Lafair | November 19, 2019 | Comments Off on Telling the Truth without Spilling Your Guts

Today, is about telling the truth without spilling your guts. So, let me tell you how this came about even that sentence I used to teach way back in the day telling the truth makes sense. We’re better when we tell the truths. We have less to remember. We have more credibility and we can…

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