Ways to Move Toward OUR COMMON FUTURE

By Sylvia Lafair | June 3, 2020 |

How do you, yes you, engage in the complex time that is upon us all right now?  When circumstances demand change what do you do?  Do you retreat, hoping for the way it was?   Do you want to clear out everything familiar and start from scratch?  Do you complain and blame “them” (whoever that may be)?  Do you want law and…

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How to Deal with a Narcissist

By Sylvia Lafair | May 20, 2020 |

I’ve been getting lots of questions about how to deal with the narcissist lately. I began to wonder if this personality type is more prevalent, or at least more obvious during times of extra stress.  So, I did a deep dive into various publications and paid special attention to the news.   Yes, there are lots of…

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Change: What really matters as we begin to create the new normal?

By Sylvia Lafair | May 13, 2020 |

Change is inevitable however, we’ve been thrown into change, more change than we’ve ever expected to experience in our lifetimes.  So how do we figure what really matters as we begin to create the new normal? I want to share the story where the president of a company I work with recently called me and said the following: …

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The benefits of EUSTRESS

By Sylvia Lafair | May 6, 2020 |

Eustress…what does that mean?  Is there really something as good stress?  In this post, I share with you the benefits of eustress and how you change how you respond to stress. I have a big question for each of you to answer: Would you eat pizza and nothing else for a month? Or maybe chow…

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How to Move Out of Fear

By Sylvia Lafair | April 7, 2020 |

I am getting the same questions over and over with the same request. “Hey, Dr. Sylvia, what advice do you have to move out of the fear that is rampant these days.”   Comments are so similar. From ones about wasting time to ones about poor sleep or gorging on junk food or drinking too much. Others are about arguing over…

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Finding Peace of Mind During These Uncertain Times

By Sylvia Lafair | March 18, 2020 |

Here is one email among many that are all requesting the same thing: peace of mind. Here is the email and how I responded.  Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am almost frozen with fear. The news is awful, my health is fair, my finances are poor and my ability to look at this time as a “learning experience” is dwindling. …

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Talking TRUTH to POWER

By Sylvia Lafair | February 13, 2020 |

Hi everyone! Today, we’re going to talk about a subject that most of us hate. Talking truth to power and you say, “What’s the big deal?” It’s just words coming out of your mouth, going into somebody else’s ear and brain, and then they say, “Words coming back at you.” Well, it’s about security survival.…

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Feedback: Learn to Love It, You’ll Get It Anyway

By Sylvia Lafair | February 5, 2020 |

Today we’re going to talk about another area in communication.Feedback the give and the get the yes and the no. We all get it. We all give it.So, what’s the best way to do it? Well, first, I want to ask you a question: Are you an optimist or a pessimist? …because that’s going to…

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Get the BUT Out of Your YES

By Sylvia Lafair | January 29, 2020 |

Do you ever get frustrated with petty conflicts at work? You’re not alone. A whopping 93% of workers report being affected in a negative manner by conflict.  The other variable is the length of time consumed by on-going, unresolved conflict.  Even worse is the fact that litigation for workplace harassment and hostile work environments has…

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Communicate to Captivate: How to Talk Truth to Power

By Sylvia Lafair | January 9, 2020 |

This month is dedicated to communication, to telling the truth without spilling your guts, or for some, letting go of the truth festering inside because of the fear of retribution, and getting past the upset.   There is a better way…  Based on so many calls and emails I have gotten in the past few months,…

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