I want to share a story from one of my coaching clients that I’m sure will resonate with you if you’ve ever found yourself feeling overwhelmed and frustrated…
One of my coaching clients sent the following, “I had a fender bender on the way to work. Then, because I was late and rushing, I tripped going on the up escalator. (Who the heck ever trips on a UP escalator?). Then, I spilled coffee on my new shirt.
They say bad things come in 3’s.
It’s not true. Bad things can be like an avalanche and keep happening. I will tell you what happened later after I ask for some HELP. Yes, I really need some help to quash the loud, unforgiving voice in my head saying, “You really are a total jerk.”
My self-doubt has me glued to my office chair. I’m afraid to get up for fear that I will start the next wave of 3 more terrible things happening to prove what a jerk I really am.
What I need is a way to turn off the noise in my head and get some work done. So, please give me something to smile about.
That said, back to my bad luck day.
My assistant stood at the doorway of my office with a look of “How can I tell him this?”
The “this” was that one of our best clients is taking business elsewhere. AND, informed us in a very sanitized email with little explanation.
At that point, I thought I should poke a pen in my eye.
That would be “bad thing 5” and then maybe be proactive and cancel my massage (where I figured I would get my back out of whack) to stave off “bad thing 6” when I got a message that my massage was canceled.
Now I must worry about what next awful thing will happen.
What do you suggest when a bad day is really, really, a bad day?
Here is my response.
When stress is high, and energy is low you need some of my Bumper Stickers For The Brain. You gotta remember the following:
Change is constant: Become like a flowing river by constantly adapting and improvising and keep moving.
Victims become victors: Find at least three options to each situation by asking yourself what else you can do to feel the fear and do it anyway.
Winners never whine: Winning is an attitude that includes grace under pressure to not judge, blame or attack yourself or anyone else.
Obstacles are opportunities: You’ve hit a bump, or several, that are merely detours to your final success; know that hope is not a plan, you need to act, not just react.
Stay the course: Keep your eyes on your goals and don’t let feat, self -doubt or imposter syndrome drag you down.