Patterns
Have you noticed that the more persecutor/bullies lash out the more the victims of their nastiness go to hide under the bedcovers? I don’t often feel like a victim, however, I had an employee who was the bossiest witch always telling everyone in the office what to do, on her terms. One day I hung…
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Summary: Here’s how the Persecutor (aka bully) stays in charge until someone (as in you) or (as in me) says STOP. Firstly, a true story: Dina told me in our coaching session that she did not think of herself as pretty. A bit overweight and with, as she said, dull, wispy hair, she was always…
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Here is an email that I just received and want to respond immediately. As in, right now. It’s incredibly perfect for the pattern I want to discuss this week, the procrastinator. First, the email: Dear Sylvia, Thank you for contacting me. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I hope this gets…
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Let’s look at the difference between a rebel who fights for what is right and how that rebel can turn into a community builder, helping all of us move to new heights of thinking beyond just right and wrong. I specifically want to look at the women of today who are saying “no more!†It’s…
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Lately I’ve been getting lots of questions and frustrated comments about the BIG SHOTS of the world, the super achievers. Many want to know how to get these blowhards to “zip it†and others want to know how to become larger than life like these often very talented (yet often very insecure) individuals. So, here…
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Last week I wrote about Harvey Weinstein and the long term cultural reasons for his outlandish manish behavior. I received so many responses that I see I hit a nerve. One of you asked some very important questions regarding family. Think, for a minute, about the subtitle of my book “Don’t Bring It To Work,†which…
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What if we decide to move past the natural temptation to blame and decide instead to seek deeper understanding of how so many men could use power to get what they want (or think they want)? This is a plea for all the GUTSY WOMEN and GALLANT MEN to help make the changes in our…
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Every Father’s Day, I bet just about everyone thinks about their dad. Some with warm feelings, others with hurt and anger, others wondering who the man is, or where he is. My story is a tough one to discuss; however, over the years, I’ve learned that talking is better than ignoring and stuffing things way down under.…
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Way back, almost 45 years ago, there was a record album (yes, that’s what we had back then) for kids. It was the brainchild of actress Marlo Thomas. A gift, so she thought, for her niece who was 4 years old and exploring what it meant to be a little girl. Helping one person became…
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Funny story: I was working on getting my negative thinking under control and asked someone to help me. You see, it’s hard to do anything totally alone and I know the power of relationships can make a tremendous difference. I found my power person to help and I found my power word. I asked my dearest, best…
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