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The Splitter: How One Toxic Personality Can Lead to Absenteeism, Lawsuits, and Lower Productivity in Your Organization

By Sylvia Lafair / September 2, 2024 / Comments Off on The Splitter: How One Toxic Personality Can Lead to Absenteeism, Lawsuits, and Lower Productivity in Your Organization

Summary: When someone pits people against each other everyone loses. In any organization, the presence of a “Splitter” can wreak havoc, leading to a cascade of issues, including increased absenteeism, costly lawsuits, and low productivity. Understanding this destructive behavior is crucial for leaders who want to maintain a healthy workplace. Here we delve into the…

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Celebrating Success: The Empowerment of Women Tooting Their Own Horns

By Sylvia Lafair / February 7, 2024 / Comments Off on Celebrating Success: The Empowerment of Women Tooting Their Own Horns

Summary: The world is increasingly recognizing the achievements of women in various fields. Thus, there is a growing need for women to take charge of their stories and proudly share their successes. Dear All, Today, I am celebrating my achievements as an executive and leadership coach. Once again, I have been named on the Top…

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Facing Irrevocable Change and Navigating Tough Times

By Sylvia Lafair / January 13, 2025 /

Summary: Change, of course, is an inevitable part of life, but some changes hit us harder than others. These are the seismic shifts—the ones that feel irrevocable, reshaping the foundation of our world. Whether it’s losing a loved one, a significant career upheaval, or moments being caught in the extremes of climate change, that’s when…

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Leadership Lessons from the Film “Inside Out Two”: What Happens When Old Memories Cause Stress

By Sylvia Lafair / January 9, 2025 /

Summary: Leadership often feels like a balancing act between managing the present and navigating the baggage of the past. For many leaders, old memories triggered by stressful situations can derail focus, cloud decision-making, and create internal turmoil. Don’t stay in adolescent reactions. Here’s how to release what no longer works. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am…

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How to Lose 7 Pounds of Emotional Stress in 7 Days

By Sylvia Lafair / January 7, 2025 /

Summary: Ah, stress. It’s like that unexpected guest who shows up, plants themselves on your couch, and refuses to leave until you figure out what they’re really there for. But here’s the kicker: what if stress wasn’t the villain we always make it out to be? What if we started this shiny new year by…

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Become a PAL (Pattern Aware Leader) in 2025: How to Release Outdated Patterns and Lead Like Never Before!

By Sylvia Lafair / January 2, 2025 /

Summary: Ready to kick off the new year by becoming the leader you were always meant to be? One who doesn’t just manage the team—but inspires, empowers, and creates a culture that thrives? It’s time to step into your new role as a PAL—a Pattern Aware Leader! This isn’t just about leading with authority; it’s…

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How to Be Your Best Self in 2025: Don’t Waste Your New Year Resolutions

By Sylvia Lafair / December 30, 2024 / Comments Off on How to Be Your Best Self in 2025: Don’t Waste Your New Year Resolutions

Summary: Ah, the New Year. The time when we all gather ‘round and try to figure out how we will turn into superheroes overnight. You know, with those resolutions that promise to transform us into versions of ourselves that could probably bench-press a car and perform ballet in our sleep. But here’s a thought: what…

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A Holiday Reflection: Finding Hope in the Season’s Honest Truths

By Sylvia Lafair / December 26, 2024 / Comments Off on A Holiday Reflection: Finding Hope in the Season’s Honest Truths

Summary: The holiday season is often wrapped in shimmering lights, cheerful music, and the promise of togetherness. Yet, for many, it brings a complex mix of emotions: nostalgia, joy, longing, and stress. This is a time to pause, reflect, and connect with the holiday season in our increasingly complicated world. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I keep…

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The Importance of Presence Over Presents

By Sylvia Lafair / December 24, 2024 / Comments Off on The Importance of Presence Over Presents

Summary: It’s easy to equate showing love and appreciation with giving physical gifts. Presents can be thoughtful and meaningful. However, something far more valuable cannot be wrapped or tied with a bow: your presence. Here are some things to think about. Dear Dr. Sylvia, When all the “oooh’s and ahhha’s” after unwrapping the special gifts…

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From Glimmer to Glow: How the path to flow state transforms your life

By Sylvia Lafair / December 19, 2024 / Comments Off on From Glimmer to Glow: How the path to flow state transforms your life

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know this sounds delusional. However, I want to change my career. I want to make the shift now. Let me explain. I am a lawyer and work in a prestigeous law firm. Hiwever, the dream to be a lawyer was my father’s desire for me. I was such a “good child”…

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How to Break Free from Secondhand Stress: What It Is and Where It Comes From

By Sylvia Lafair / December 16, 2024 / Comments Off on How to Break Free from Secondhand Stress: What It Is and Where It Comes From

Dear Dr. Sylvia, Everyone has secondhand stress these days. It’s not that different than getting sick from someone smoking near you. I can be happy and positive, and then someone will enter the meeting with a frown and a bag full of negatives, and suddenly, my smile leaves, and I can feel that annoying knot…

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From One-Upper to Creative Collaborator

By Sylvia Lafair / December 12, 2024 / Comments Off on From One-Upper to Creative Collaborator

Transforming the Workplace Super Achiever Dear Dr. Sylvia, I work with the most annoying super achiever. That is to say, she always has a better response, a more thoughtful comment, and a “great” way to handle conflict (even though she creates much of the chaos at work). In addition, my team and I need help…

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