Why People Resign: Pay Attention To Those Glimmers of Discontent

Summary: Resignations are becoming more common as employees seek environments that align with their values, aspirations, and well-being. Understanding why people resign is crucial for employees and employers, as it can lead to more fulfilling careers and healthier workplaces. Here are the reasons behind resignations and energizing solutions to create better work environments.

Dear Dr Sylvia,

I finally did it!

What I mean is, I sent a very appropriate email to my boss, telling him I was resigning.

I will stay to help with the transition for two weeks. I’m willing to stay for no more than two weeks, which I think is fair.

The main reasons for my resignation include micromanagement and misalignment of my values with what the company sees as important.

It took me several months of falling asleep with a pit in my stomach and then waking up with that same awful feeling.

When I took the time to analyze this ugly feeling, I became aware of how I was selling myself out for a paycheck.

What you learn as a child can directly impact your adult decisions

In fact, I began to understand that as I was growing up, my parents had three sayings that stayed with me

1. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
2. Since you made your bed, now you must sleep in it.
3. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

This never made sense to me.

However, these sayings became so embedded in my mind that I could not shake the idea that:

1. I am better off having a job, so stay put!
2. Because I chose to accept the job, I must stay
3. Don’t expect too much; be satisfied with what you have.

In any case, I wonder why you think most people leave a work setting.

Also, have you ever resigned from a job?

Thanks for responding.

Best,

Free at last

Resigning from a job is NOT failing at that job, it is a choice

Dear Free at last,

I will answer your last question first.

Yes, I did resign from an organization. It only happened once. And yes, I am glad I did.

I had worked at the company for three years. There were so many positives.

The CEO wanted to create a “great place to work,” so there were team meetings to discuss how we could handle conflict effectively.

We also learned better communication styles.

The silo mentality slowly faded away.

When the core agenda changes at work, make sure it is a fit for you

That was until he hired a COO who had different ideas.

Suddenly, we had to send in a report every day on what we had or had not accomplished the day before.

There were no more opportunities to take risks and be creative.

I, too, went to sleep with dread and woke up with the same unpleasant feeling in my body.

I finally “took the bull by the horns” and resigned.

The CEO was surprised, offered money, and promised more autonomy if I stayed.

I saw others before me go through this drama. There were promises never kept. Eventually, they would finally resign.

I no longer trusted his word and stayed true to my course.

The result is better health, more wealth, and a happier outlook.

Thus, I learned that you must take action if you continue to have that nagging “glimmer” of discontent.

1. A bird in the hand can be toxic.
2. When the bed is filled with lumps, get a new bed.
3. The whole idea of having a cake is being able to eat it!

Your body, mind, and emotions will guide you more effectively than sayings from the past.

Now, here are some thoughts about why most people resign and what to do for positive change at work

Why resign? Is it lack of career growth

Why It Happens: Employees leave when they feel their career growth is stunted. This could be due to a lack of promotions, training opportunities, or career development programs.

Solution: Employers should invest in continuous learning and development programs. Offering mentorship, regular training sessions and clear pathways for advancement can retain talent and keep employees motivated.

What to do when there is poor work-life balance

Why It Happens: A demanding job that leaves little room for personal life can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction. Employees need time to recharge and maintain a healthy work-life balance.

Solution: Flexible working hours, remote work options, and encouraging employees to take their vacation days can improve work-life balance. Creating a culture that values well-being over constant availability is key.

Do you exist in a toxic work environment

Why It Happens: A toxic work environment characterized by poor leadership, lack of support, and negative workplace culture can drive employees away.

Solution: Building a positive workplace culture starts with leadership. Employers should foster open communication, recognize achievements, and address conflicts promptly. Encouraging teamwork and inclusivity can transform the workplace atmosphere.

How do you handle inadequate compensation

Why It Happens: Employees who feel underpaid or undervalued are likely to seek better opportunities elsewhere. Compensation is not just about salary but also includes benefits and perks.

Solution: Regularly review and adjust compensation packages to stay competitive. Providing bonuses, health benefits, and other perks can show employees they are valued and appreciated.

Is there a lack of recognition at your organization

Why It Happens: Employees who consistently put in effort but receive little to no recognition may feel undervalued and unmotivated.

Solution: Implementing a recognition program that celebrates achievements and milestones can boost morale. Simple gestures like verbal praise, employee of the month awards, or public acknowledgments can make a big difference.

Are you misaligned with company values

Why It Happens: Employees who feel their values do not align with the company’s mission or culture may become disengaged.

Solution: Communicate the company’s values and mission. Ensure that hiring practices and company policies reflect these values. Encourage employees to contribute to causes and projects they are passionate about within the company framework.

Do you look for better opportunities elsewhere

Why It Happens: Sometimes, employees leave simply because they find a better opportunity that aligns more with their career goals and personal needs.

Solution: While it’s not always possible to prevent this, employers can conduct exit interviews to understand the reasons behind the departure and use this feedback to improve the workplace for current and future employees.

Here are energizing solutions for employers

1. Create a Feedback Loop: Regularly solicit feedback from employees about their job satisfaction and areas for improvement. Act on this feedback to show employees that their voices matter.
2. Promote Work-Life Harmony: Encourage employees to take breaks and prioritize their health. Organize wellness programs and offer resources for mental health support.
3. Invest in Employee Growth: Provide opportunities for skill development, cross-training, and career advancement. Show employees that their growth is a priority.
4. Foster a Positive Culture: Celebrate successes, encourage collaboration, and maintain open lines of communication. A positive workplace culture is a powerful retention tool.
5. Recognize and Reward: Implement programs to recognize and reward employees for their hard work and contributions. Regular appreciation can boost morale and loyalty.

Some energizing solutions for employees

1. Seek Clarity: Understand your career goals and seek roles that align with them. Clear career aspirations can guide you towards fulfilling opportunities.
2. Prioritize Well-being: Balance your work and personal life. Set boundaries and take time for activities that rejuvenate you.
3. Communicate Needs: Don’t hesitate to communicate your needs and concerns to your employer. Open dialogue can lead to positive changes in your work environment.
4. Pursue Growth: Take charge of your career development by seeking learning opportunities and new challenges. Continuous growth keeps you engaged and motivated.
5. Align with Values: Seek employers whose values resonate with yours. Working for a company that aligns with your personal beliefs can enhance job satisfaction.

In conclusion, understanding why people resign and implementing energizing solutions can lead to more productive, satisfied, and healthy work settings.

To your success,

Sylvia Lafair

PS. What sayings were you taught that stay with you as an adult?

PS. Find your true north and employment that fulfills you. Read “Don’t Bring It To Work” and learn about how the sayings you were taught as a child can hinder your next steps. Ultimately, please know that your success is an inside job!