Sylvia Lafair

fear of finding out

The Leadership Blind Spot: Fear of Finding Out, and What It Costs You

By Sylvia Lafair | December 15, 2025 |

FOFO, or fear of finding out, keeps us stuck in avoidance, denial, and distraction—making small issues grow bigger. Learn how to recognize the subtle signals, regulate your nervous system, and take brave, manageable steps to face the truth and reclaim your agency.

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how wise leaders survive

How Wise Leaders Survive the Holidays (and Don’t Lose Their Minds, Their Teams, or Their Health)

By Sylvia Lafair | December 10, 2025 |

Learn how business leaders survive holiday stress with clarity, and ways to protect energy, support your team, and lead wisely.

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rather be happy or right

Would You Rather Be Happy or Right? The Question That Changes Your Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | December 8, 2025 |

Discover why the question “Would you rather be happy or right?” can transform your leadership by reducing stress, improving communication, and strengthening relationships.

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patterns escalate

Patterns Escalate at This Time of Year: Complete Them or Repeat Them, Your Choice

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2025 |

Explore why family patterns escalate during the holidays and learn simple shifts that transform your reactions, relationships, and leadership.

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the leadership trifecta

The Leadership Trifecta: Why Expectations, Accountability, and Follow-Up Make or Break Your Team

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2025 |

Master the leadership trifecta of expectations, accountability, and follow-up to build trust, reduce drama, and elevate leadership impact.

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The Patterns We Pass

The Patterns We Pass at the Thanksgiving Table: A Lesson in Leadership, Love, and Letting Go

By Sylvia Lafair | November 24, 2025 |

Summary: Thanksgiving has a way of shining a spotlight on the people we love most and the patterns we pass around, but would prefer to keep in the pantry with the canned cranberry sauce. Let this year be a day of gratitude and learning. Keep reading about how to make this time with family and friends…

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the next big shift in leadership

The Next Big Shift in Leadership Development: Stop Guessing and Start Leading with Confidence

By Sylvia Lafair | November 20, 2025 |

Summary: Let’s get one thing straight: you, as a leader, don’t need more theories. Or frameworks. Or another shiny workbook that sits gathering digital dust. You need integration. That elusive moment when the light bulb goes on, and it stays on long enough for behavior to actually change. You can do it as long as…

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the stoic leader

The Stoic Leader: Steady Rock or Stone Wall? The Pattern Truth Behind the Calm

By Sylvia Lafair | November 17, 2025 |

Summary: Stoic leaders are having a moment. Podcasts gush about calm. Every leadership guru raves about equanimity. And half the world is clutching Marcus Aurelius quotes. This is only one part of leadership. It is the glimmer of the mind. Read on to see what works and what doesn’t. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Until now, I…

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Lost in Logic™: When Leaders Ignore the Voice Beneath the Data

By Sylvia Lafair | November 13, 2025 |

Summary: Here is a more complete way to view your behavior at work. In the new leadership science, your head analyzes, your heart connects, and your gut predicts. When they’re aligned, decisions flow. However, if they’re not, chaos follows. Read on for new ideas. Dear Dr. Sylvia, It’s all my fault! I was the final…

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Lost in Childhood ™: How One Leader Faced His Past Before It Finished Him

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2025 |

Summary: Most leaders don’t realize this, but destructive workplace behaviors rarely begin at work. They begin in childhood, long before the corner office, long before the first promotion, long before the first glass of wine at a client dinner seemed like no big deal. Keep reading. This is a need-to-know issue important for long-term success.…

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