Sylvia Lafair
Summary: Here’s how the Persecutor (aka bully) stays in charge until someone (as in you) or (as in me) says STOP. Firstly, a true story: Dina told me in our coaching session that she did not think of herself as pretty. A bit overweight and with, as she said, dull, wispy hair, she was always…
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Here is an email that I just received and want to respond immediately. As in, right now. It’s incredibly perfect for the pattern I want to discuss this week, the procrastinator. First, the email: Dear Sylvia, Thank you for contacting me. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I hope this gets…
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Let’s look at the difference between a rebel who fights for what is right and how that rebel can turn into a community builder, helping all of us move to new heights of thinking beyond just right and wrong. I specifically want to look at the women of today who are saying “no more!†It’s…
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Lately I’ve been getting lots of questions and frustrated comments about the BIG SHOTS of the world, the super achievers. Many want to know how to get these blowhards to “zip it†and others want to know how to become larger than life like these often very talented (yet often very insecure) individuals. So, here…
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Last week I wrote about Harvey Weinstein and the long term cultural reasons for his outlandish manish behavior. I received so many responses that I see I hit a nerve. One of you asked some very important questions regarding family. Think, for a minute, about the subtitle of my book “Don’t Bring It To Work,†which…
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What if we decide to move past the natural temptation to blame and decide instead to seek deeper understanding of how so many men could use power to get what they want (or think they want)? This is a plea for all the GUTSY WOMEN and GALLANT MEN to help make the changes in our…
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Do you have a stupid boss? Well, maybe not stupid, just indecisive, or slow in answering? Or perhaps you have an incompetent colleague. You know, one who always messes up the report and you must fix everything? And then there is the passive-aggressive direct report. That’s the one who says “yes†and does “no 
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This week’s article is written with deep sadness. The question that so many are asking today, after the devastation in Las Vegas is “When will we ever learn?†Words fall short. Does calling the killer evil or insane make a real difference? There always seems to be the next evil, insane one. The gun lobby…
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These days stress can come with a change in the weather. Hurricanes, fires, tornadoes, no place is safe anymore. What was business as usual yesterday could be taking a heroic stance to save a life today. This is a great time to evaluate your leadership style and see what you can do to elevate to…
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The main thing that all leaders shudder about is conflict at work. There is a silent hope that conflict will simply resolve itself and teams can get their projects done quickly and easily. Problems seldom simply just disappear… There are four leadership styles that can be used when conflict rears its ugly head. However, there…
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