Business & Life Patterns

Four Women. Four Historic Firsts. One Powerful Leadership Lesson: The Pattern Can Be Broken

By Sylvia Lafair | November 10, 2026 |

Summary: The recent elections did more than make political history. They challenged generations of unwritten rules about who gets to lead, whose voice matters, and what happens when someone refuses to remain invisible. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I watched the election results and was struck by something beyond which political party won or lost. At least…

Winners and Losers: When the World Shifts

By Sylvia Lafair | November 3, 2026 |

Summary: Why disruption brings out our oldest behaviors, and how to turn uncertainty into a GLIMMER. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Have you noticed how differently people respond when the world suddenly feels uncertain? My son-in-law, who was a “shew-in” for a relatively minor public office, now looks like he will lose the vote for a job…

The Leadership Test America Needs Before Election Day: What John McCain Taught Us About Courage, Character, and the Danger of Blind Loyalty

By Sylvia Lafair | October 30, 2026 |

Summary: I recently received an email from a client that speaks to the tension we are all feeling these days. Here is the essence of it: I am exhausted by the anger surrounding this election. Friends no longer speak to one another. Even at work, people are careful about what they say because one wrong…

Accountability Is Not Punishment: Why Making Things Even Doesn’t Make Things Right

By Sylvia Lafair | October 29, 2026 |

Summary: When loyalty collides with business integrity, the temptation to keep the peace can make everything worse. Dear Dr. Sylvia, My sister and I are fighting in our family business, just like we did as kids. I am the older sister and always had to protect her. She is three years younger chronologically, and I…

The Old Corporate Ladder Is Cracking. Are You Ready for What Comes Next?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 20, 2026 |

Summary: Canva CEO Melanie Perkins challenges traditional leadership by showing how collaboration, empowerment, and innovation are reshaping success. As AI transforms the workplace, leaders must rethink old patterns and focus on building bridges rather than climbing the corporate ladder. Keep reading to discover what today’s leaders can learn from this shift. For decades, the corporate…

The Most Dangerous Words a Leader Can Say: “I’ve Got This”

By Sylvia Lafair | October 13, 2026 |

Summary: Why tomorrow’s best leaders will stop pretending they have all the answers—and how to move forward. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am a leader who thought I had most of the answers for my staff. After 25 years at the helm of a very successful retail business, I am now stuck for solutions. Every day,…

Healthy Boundaries: The Leadership Skill Nobody Teaches You

By Sylvia Lafair | October 6, 2026 |

Summary: We often think of boundaries as walls that we put up when we’re angry, hurt, or trying to keep someone out. But healthy boundaries are not about rejection. They are about clarity. When attempting to break an old pattern, clarity can be uncomfortable, especially when the person on the other side is someone you…

When Every Choice Costs You Something: The Ed Sheeran Leadership Lesson

By Sylvia Lafair | September 29, 2026 |

Summary: What do you do when no choice feels comfortable? Ed Sheeran found out very publicly. Read on for my thoughts on what to do when you’re caught between a rock and a hard place. Dear Dr. Sylvia, There is so much polarization in our world right now; we can’t even go to a concert…

Just Wait—The Magic May Already Be Happening

By Sylvia Lafair | September 22, 2026 |

Summary: What if the employee who keeps reverting to old behaviors isn’t failing to change, but is actually showing the first signs of transformation? Discover how recognizing the small GLIMMERS of progress can help leaders balance accountability with patience, avoid triggering old patterns, and allow space for meaningful growth to take hold. Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

Royal British Brothers and the Family Pattern That Keeps Repeating

By Sylvia Lafair | September 15, 2026 |

Summary: Three generations. Three pairs of brothers. And one question every family eventually faces: What happens when loyalty to someone you love collides with responsibility for the larger family? We tend to watch the Royal Family as though it were a very expensive television series. But look beyond the crowns, castles, scandals, and headlines, and…