Business & Life Patterns

A dramatic sunset silhouette of two teams locked in a tug-of-war, symbolizing the struggle of overcoming toxic polarization through effort and unity.

When Polarization Becomes the Norm: Here’s What to Do

By Sylvia Lafair | September 11, 2025 |

Summary: Let’s face it: these days it feels like the world is split into “us” and “them” about… well, everything: politics, workplace policies, parenting styles. Polarization has become the default setting. And when being “right” matters more than being in a relationship, the cost is steep: broken teams, broken families, broken trust. The question is:…

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A leader walking across a bridge toward sunrise while an AI robot stands still, symbolizing personal growth as the real power move in the age of AI.

Why Personal Growth Is the Real Power Move for Leaders in the Age of AI

By Sylvia Lafair | August 20, 2025 | Comments Off on Why Personal Growth Is the Real Power Move for Leaders in the Age of AI

Summary: Leaders today stand on a wild new bridge: one foot planted in timeless human capacities, such as empathy, courage, and intuition, and the other testing the unfamiliar terrain of artificial intelligence. The bridge is shaky. AI is moving at lightning speed, and the truth is, if leaders aren’t growing personally, they risk being left…

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Wooden table under desk lamp with puzzle pieces labeled Talent Crisis, AI, Economy, Burnout, Polarization, Old Patterns, partly assembled to represent top leadership concerns.

What’s Keeping Leaders Up at Night? (Hint: It’s Not Just the Quarterly Numbers)

By Sylvia Lafair | August 12, 2025 | Comments Off on What’s Keeping Leaders Up at Night? (Hint: It’s Not Just the Quarterly Numbers)

Summary: Around the world, leaders are tossing and turning, not because of poor mattresses, but because the weight of leadership in 2025 is heavier than ever. Here are the top issues robbing today’s leaders of sleep, and what to do about them. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am the executive assistant to a highly creative and…

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A bright orange lifesaver and a silver ladder side by side on a paved surface, symbolizing the shift from rescuer to mentor.

Stop Rescuing. Start Leading: How the Rescuer Becomes the Mentor

By Sylvia Lafair | July 23, 2025 | Comments Off on Stop Rescuing. Start Leading: How the Rescuer Becomes the Mentor

Summary: They’re falling behind. You swoop in to help. You make sure they won’t drown. You’re praised for being “the one who always saves the day. ” After the tenth time of fixing someone else’s mess, a thought creeps in: ”Why am I working harder than the people I’m rescuing?” Welcome to the Rescuer Pattern,…

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Smartphone recording of a crowd capturing a silhouetted couple in a concert balcony, symbolizing public scrutiny in the CEO-HR scandal

Concerts, Cameras, and Consequences: What the CEO-HR Scandal Teaches Us About Leadership in the Age of Public Scrutiny

By Sylvia Lafair | July 21, 2025 | Comments Off on Concerts, Cameras, and Consequences: What the CEO-HR Scandal Teaches Us About Leadership in the Age of Public Scrutiny

Summary: The internet did what it does best: took a grainy concert video and turned it into a full-blown social media bonfire. The latest “did-you-see-this?” involves a CEO and the head of HR caught on camera looking very cozy. Let’s consider “two consenting adults” versus “a total breach of workplace ethics.” Dear Dr. Sylvia, I…

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Happy Independence Day graphic with bold patriotic text declaring personal freedom and empowerment — “Happy Independence Day” in red and blue against a white textured background.

What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

By Sylvia Lafair | June 30, 2025 | Comments Off on What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

Summary: Flags, fireworks, and food sum up the traditional way Independence Day is celebrated.  Welcome to July 4th. But before we fall into another loop of red, white, and blue, let’s pause and ask the underlying question that the Founders discussed over and over as they planned a new way in the 13 colonies. Dear Dr.…

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Founding Fathers depicted with historical textures reflecting the leadership patterns that shaped a nation.

How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

By Sylvia Lafair | June 29, 2025 | Comments Off on How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

Summary: Let’s learn from the American Revolution. Rewind to 1776, a time before cable news. Back then, the colonies were a hotbed of unrest, rebellion, and yes… conspiracy theories. But instead of letting these theories spiral into chaos and infighting, the early revolutionaries did something brilliant: they used the momentum to unite the colonies under…

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A dramatic gap between two broken cliffs under stormy skies, symbolizing the communication breakdown and disconnection caused by mistakes leaders make.

Broken Bridges: 7 Trust-Busting Mistakes Leaders Make, and How to Avoid Them

By Sylvia Lafair | June 25, 2025 | Comments Off on Broken Bridges: 7 Trust-Busting Mistakes Leaders Make, and How to Avoid Them

Summary: Trust is a leader’s currency; make sure you don’t go bankrupt. Here are seven ways to consider navigating the complexities of trust. Also, a bonus true story from my executive coaching practice. Dear Dr. Sylvia, In every team meeting, we need to examine how we want to work together. There is a mysterious word…

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A calm leader surround by a team in chaos.

The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

By Sylvia Lafair | June 19, 2025 | Comments Off on The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

Summary: Let’s face it, workplaces are loud these days. They are noisy and speedy, not always in decibels, but in energy. Type A individuals are often at the forefront, leading meetings as if their lives depend on it. Then there are the Type B individuals who are not sure how to fit in. Here is…

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Split-screen image showing a children with a father figure transitioning to the same person as a confident business leader in a modern office, illustrating how fathers shape leaders.

Father’s Day Reflections: The First Leader You Ever Met (Or Not)

By Sylvia Lafair | June 13, 2025 | Comments Off on Father’s Day Reflections: The First Leader You Ever Met (Or Not)

Summary: Father’s Day appears on the calendar, and for some, it’s all about gratitude and grilled steaks. For others, it’s confusion, avoidance, or grief. And for many, it’s both. Here are thoughts for you to consider. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Father’s Day hits me like a wave I can’t predict. Sometimes I feel nothing, sometimes I…

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