Business & Life Patterns

I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 |

Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  In addition, you also talk about…

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Romancing the Bullies

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2020 |

Summary: How to become more self-aware is vital for workplace productivity. Here is what you can do. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  My boss is driving me crazy. I want to help and be a great colleague. However, what he is doing makes no sense. Could you help me understand?  For example, He ignores those who want…

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Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2020 |

Summary: There is a fine line between what we do as individuals and how to respond in a relationship. For instance, when do you take a stand, and when is it better to go along with what someone says? Self-awareness is needed. Here are ideas to consider. Is it better to keep the peace and…

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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 |

Summary: Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Your home and your mind! Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on.   Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I am known as “the boss who is not bossy.”  Indeed, that’s good.…

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How Diversity, Inclusion, and Engagement Move Productivity to a Higher Level

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2020 |

Summary: You can teach prejudice. You can grow and learn too. Here is the story of one woman who helped children become critical thinkers. They developed self-awareness for more fulfilling lives. Firstly, if you do not know who Jane Elliott is, please google her. Then take the time to watch the documentary. Yes, one person…

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How to Deal with a Narcissist

By Sylvia Lafair | May 20, 2020 |

I’ve been getting lots of questions about how to deal with the narcissist lately. I began to wonder if this personality type is more prevalent, or at least more obvious during times of extra stress.  So, I did a deep dive into various publications and paid special attention to the news.   Yes, there are lots of…

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7 Ways to “Practice Safe Stress” during times of confusion and chaos

By Sylvia Lafair | March 25, 2020 |

What do you do when others are driving you nuts? When you can’t seem to catch your breath because so much is being asked of you? When you must change your schedule to please others who claim to need you ‘right now’?   Do you go on the attack and say whatever comes to mind to…

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How Super Achievers Can Listen to Themselves and Others

By Sylvia Lafair | February 11, 2020 |

Before super achievers can listen to themselves or others, they need to know how they got to be so exhausting, annoying, and demanding in the first place.   Here’s how the super-achiever pattern was addressed with a new coaching client, Dan, a Senior VP in a large marketing company that offers leadership development courses for senior executives.  He said this about himself, which much initial pride, “Hey, I always have to be…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 |

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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What to do when life seems out of balance

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2019 |

Everyone is telling me this year has more stress and strain than in the past? You agree? “Why,” people are asking, “is life so much more out of balance now?” I must admit, I’m not sure. However, I have a hunch that all the social media stuff is really making us kinda crazy. I was…

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