Business & Life Patterns

Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, The amount of criticism I’m getting now is above what I can handle. Look, I don’t mind if someone says “Hey, fix the side of your hair, your curls are drooping.” I don’t’ mind if someone says, “Your slip is showing.” That was just a fun mention for last’s week’s blog about Freudian…

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Can You Really Change YOUR Habits?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 19, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I did it again. It doesn’t really matter exactly what I did except I thought I had changed my awful habit and it just came back today and bit me in the butt. I ask you, “How long does it take for a new behavior to become automatic? I’ll do my best…

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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 |

Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on. Two levels to declutter…. Your home and your mind!  “Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I have been known as “the boss who is…

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Diversity, Inclusion and Engagement

By Sylvia Lafair | June 5, 2020 |

Hi everybody! Sylvia Lafair here, and I will keep this short. There are two parts to this that I’d like to guide you to look. First, if you do not know who Jane Elliott is, please google her and please watch the documentary and some of the newer things she’s done. I will tell you…

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How to Deal with a Narcissist

By Sylvia Lafair | May 20, 2020 |

I’ve been getting lots of questions about how to deal with the narcissist lately. I began to wonder if this personality type is more prevalent, or at least more obvious during times of extra stress.  So, I did a deep dive into various publications and paid special attention to the news.   Yes, there are lots of…

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7 Ways to “Practice Safe Stress” during times of confusion and chaos

By Sylvia Lafair | March 25, 2020 |

What do you do when others are driving you nuts? When you can’t seem to catch your breath because so much is being asked of you? When you must change your schedule to please others who claim to need you ‘right now’?   Do you go on the attack and say whatever comes to mind to…

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How Super Achievers Can Listen to Themselves and Others

By Sylvia Lafair | February 11, 2020 |

Before super achievers can listen to themselves or others, they need to know how they got to be so exhausting, annoying, and demanding in the first place.   Here’s how the super-achiever pattern was addressed with a new coaching client, Dan, a Senior VP in a large marketing company that offers leadership development courses for senior executives.  He said this about himself, which much initial pride, “Hey, I always have to be…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 |

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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What to do when life seems out of balance

By Sylvia Lafair | December 18, 2019 |

Everyone is telling me this year has more stress and strain than in the past? You agree? “Why,” people are asking, “is life so much more out of balance now?” I must admit, I’m not sure. However, I have a hunch that all the social media stuff is really making us kinda crazy. I was…

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Is it Really the Season of Joy and Fun?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2019 |

It’s officially the season of joy and fun…Or is it? We are programmed to be happy, merry, and filled with love and appreciation.  So, why are there so many who have inherited a black cloud filled with rain or snow that clings no matter what? If so, you are not alone.  Make you feel better? It’s good…

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