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How Do We Help The Men (or should we?)

By Sylvia Lafair | March 3, 2021 | Comments Off on How Do We Help The Men (or should we?)

Dear Dr. Sylvia, My question: Are we leaving the men behind? First, let me explain. I must hire a new marketing manager for my company.  To clarify, here is why I am writing to you. Firstly, my company has been top-heavy with strong, competent men. Secondly, we wanted to create a more equal opportunity organization.…

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Office Romance Stress: What’s Love Got To Do With It? (Plus: A FUN Quiz)

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021 | Comments Off on Office Romance Stress: What’s Love Got To Do With It? (Plus: A FUN Quiz)

Office romance stress? I’ve seen it ALL before. Here’s my advice… Dear Dr. Sylvia, I always thought I loved complexity and challenges in my life. That is to say, I’m not sure anymore. Why? To clarify, here’s what’s going on and I need some good advice. Looking for love in the wrong places? Above all,…

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What Does It Mean To Be A Boss? It’s not just what you were taught in school

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021 | Comments Off on What Does It Mean To Be A Boss? It’s not just what you were taught in school

#leadership #conflict resolution # team development Dear Dr. Sylvia, Above all, you can congratulate me. You’ll learn why I deserve a standing ovation in a minute. On the other hand, you can hand me a box of tissues and let me bring on the tears. Never mind, I don’t cry much. However, mostly I desire…

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I Am Filled with Self-Doubt

By Sylvia Lafair | December 9, 2020 | Comments Off on I Am Filled with Self-Doubt

Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I am filled with self-doubt. I am wondering if this is just a “gal thing. ” In other words, do the males of the world also worry about their abilities? Do they worry about the way they come across to others?  For example, so many I talk with (once we break the…

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Common Destructive Behavior Patterns That Can Drive You NUTS, at Work, at Home, Everywhere (and what to do about them)

By Sylvia Lafair | November 3, 2020 | Comments Off on Common Destructive Behavior Patterns That Can Drive You NUTS, at Work, at Home, Everywhere (and what to do about them)

Dear Dr. Sylvia. I hate to complain, but my boss is driving me totally crazy. He is smart and knows the science behind what we do, however, as a leader he is just plain awful. For example, He is always telling us how great he is. He brags about how many awards he has won,…

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Elections, Families, and Victor Frankenstein

By Sylvia Lafair | October 21, 2020 | Comments Off on Elections, Families, and Victor Frankenstein

Summary: Elections happen all the time. Here is a way to think about who you want to vote for and support. How do we know which candidates have self-awareness and are emotionally intelligent? Elections are part of our lives. From high school campaigns to national elections, there is always someone who wants your vote. How…

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I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 | Comments Off on I’m Not Pattern Blind

Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  In addition, you also talk about…

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Romancing the Bullies

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2020 | Comments Off on Romancing the Bullies

Summary: How to become more self-aware is vital for workplace productivity. Here is what you can do. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  My boss is driving me crazy. I want to help and be a great colleague. However, what he is doing makes no sense. Could you help me understand?  For example, He ignores those who want…

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Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2020 | Comments Off on Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

Summary: There is a fine line between what we do as individuals and how to respond in a relationship. For instance, when do you take a stand, and when is it better to go along with what someone says? Self-awareness is needed. Here are ideas to consider. Is it better to keep the peace and…

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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 | Comments Off on How to declutter your mind and get it organized

Summary: Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Your home and your mind! Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on.   Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I am known as “the boss who is not bossy.”  Indeed, that’s good.…

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