Change

Five Steps to a New You! ALL Year Long.

By Sylvia Lafair | April 1, 2021 |

Ready for a New YOU! Most importantly, don’t ever wait to ring in the new year to start creating a vision for the new you. Above all, isn’t that what most of us want? In the same vein, we are constantly striving to evolve and change. Consequently, do you start each year with a boatload…

Can’t Decide? Yes, No, Maybe? Here’s What To Do

By Sylvia Lafair | March 6, 2021 |

How to decide what to decide. Do you get all tangled up inside when you have to make a big decision? Or even a small one? For instance, “The tie comes in blue, red or leopard print. Which do I get?” Another example, “Is hotel A or B best for our summer vacation? Wait, what…

Crack the Code on Stress Once and Forever

By Sylvia Lafair | March 5, 2021 |

Does being told “Just relax” make you even more stressed out? You can’t seem to hit the target and get your life working the way you want. Does the effect of today’s upsets keep you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Are you stressing out because your worries are so strong they cause a lack of focus,…

How Do We Help The Men (or should we?)

By Sylvia Lafair | March 3, 2021 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, My question: Are we leaving the men behind? First, let me explain. I must hire a new marketing manager for my company.  To clarify, here is why I am writing to you. Firstly, my company has been top-heavy with strong, competent men. Secondly, we wanted to create a more equal opportunity organization.…

Procrastinate? Who Me? I’ll Get Back To You About This Tomorrow!

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021 |

Wonder why you keep putting off doing things? What or who do you blame? Here we explore the procrastinator-perfection-paralysis syndrome. Hey, you wonder what is procrastination anyway. It really comes down to one ugly underlying habit: people-pleasing. Here’s how to stop. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  It took me weeks to finally press the “send” button on my email…

A Tsunami of Thoughts

By Sylvia Lafair | September 9, 2020 |

Summary: When you are overwhelmed, here are some ways to go from falling apart to staying strong. Dear Dr. Sylvia, How does it happen? I already know your answer. I’m still going to ask. How does it happen? I know you’re probably saying, “get to the point.” So here goes. For example, I live in…

Did Anyone Ever Ask You To ‘Fix’ Your Personality?

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2020 |

Summary: There is a fine line between what we do as individuals and how to respond in a relationship. For instance, when do you take a stand, and when is it better to go along with what someone says? Self-awareness is needed. Here are ideas to consider. Is it better to keep the peace and…

Leadership in a Time of Incivility

By Sylvia Lafair | July 29, 2020 |

Watching the service for John Lewis got me thinking. About civil rights, about politics, about funerals, and mostly about civility. That’s something we have lost in our country. Not only civility, even more, but we have also lost the dream of the United States. Why are we so fragmented today? Why are so many people…

Can You Remember?

By Sylvia Lafair | July 8, 2020 |

Summary: The time has come to understand better diversity and inclusion in our work, schools, and communities. It begins with your personal story. Everyone has one where they were excluded or ignored. Here is how to use storytelling at work. Can you remember the first time words were thrown your way that would bite and sting?  Above…

The Courage to Change: Diversity, Inclusion, and Engagement

By Sylvia Lafair | June 10, 2020 |

Summary: Diversity and inclusion are now the norms rather than the exceptions. The big question is: “What can be done to heal the chasm of discontent that exists in most workplaces, in fact, around the world, regarding differences? Here are thoughts to ponder. We need a new way to approach diversity and inclusion. “What’s the…