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Transforming Conflict Into Win-Win Solutions Summary: In the heat of a conflict, our natural response is often to judge, blame, or attack (what I call JUBLA), and then we move to the next level, to defend, explain, or justify (DEJ) our position. These are traditional methods in most cultures. Resolving conflict was to punch, jab,…
Summary: This is a tale of workplace conflict and redemption that shows you ways to make real change happen. Enjoy it and use it in your own work life. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am so tired of fighting with my colleagues at work. My pattern is “the clown.” I make funny jokes (at least, I…
Summary: Generational karma is a powerful force. It’s the set of unconscious patterns—beliefs, behaviors, and emotional responses—that tumble through families until someone finally decides to stop the cycle. We see it in our own lives, but it’s especially fascinating when examined in high-profile families. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Everything seems so upside down at the moment.…
Summary: Do you ever sidestep discomfort, avoiding situations that unsettle you? Yet, these moments—your emotional triggers—are key to profound self-discovery and growth. By confronting and understanding your triggers, you can transform them from sources of distress into valuable teachers. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Yesterday, at my semi-annual review with my boss, he told me, and I…
Dear All, Have a sweet and caring Valentine’s Day with your loved ones. Along with flowers and chocolates, here are some thoughts to consider. Valentine’s Day is a time for love, connection, and deep listening—not just with our ears but with our hearts. Ultimately, it’s a day when words carry more meaning. Think about when…
Summary: Stress is a multifaceted and annoying creature. One of the deepest holes to dig out of is self-doubt. Yes, it takes a willingness to look inside yourself for the why and the where that feeling of not being good enough began. Here are some thoughts on taming your own stress monster. Dear Dr. Sylvia…
The Illusions of Safety: How Fires, Floods, and Wars Impact the Daily Lives of Those in “Safe Zones” Summary: No one is truly untouched in a world increasingly defined by its challenges—climate change, wildfires, droughts, and conflicts. While some regions experience these crises firsthand, others may seem to exist in “safe zones.” Yet, the ripple…
Summary: We all talk about workplace culture as a critical determinant of success. Yet, many organizations continue to struggle with internal culture clashes that hinder productivity and growth. Transforming these clashes into a harmonious and profitable workplace isn’t just a utopian ideal; it’s a tangible goal that can drive significant financial and operational benefits. Let’s…
Summary: Millions of people were mesmerized by the solar eclipse. With its awe-inspiring beauty and profound symbolism, it is more than just a celestial spectacle. Just as the moon momentarily obscures the sun, leaders often face challenges that dim their vision or obscure their path. By reflecting on the phenomenon of eclipses, each of us…
Summary: When did we become so obsessed with guns? The relationship between society and firearms has become a topic of increasing concern and interest. Many of my clients have horrific stories about how guns have impacted their lives, often over generations. What is the answer to “why can’t we all get along?” Dear All, The…
