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patterns escalate

Patterns Escalate at This Time of Year: Complete Them or Repeat Them, Your Choice

By Sylvia Lafair | December 4, 2025 |

Explore why family patterns escalate during the holidays and learn simple shifts that transform your reactions, relationships, and leadership.

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the leadership trifecta

The Leadership Trifecta: Why Expectations, Accountability, and Follow-Up Make or Break Your Team

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2025 |

Master the leadership trifecta of expectations, accountability, and follow-up to build trust, reduce drama, and elevate leadership impact.

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The Patterns We Pass

The Patterns We Pass at the Thanksgiving Table: A Lesson in Leadership, Love, and Letting Go

By Sylvia Lafair | November 24, 2025 |

Summary: Thanksgiving has a way of shining a spotlight on the people we love most and the patterns we pass around, but would prefer to keep in the pantry with the canned cranberry sauce. Let this year be a day of gratitude and learning. Keep reading about how to make this time with family and friends…

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the stoic leader

The Stoic Leader: Steady Rock or Stone Wall? The Pattern Truth Behind the Calm

By Sylvia Lafair | November 17, 2025 | Comments Off on The Stoic Leader: Steady Rock or Stone Wall? The Pattern Truth Behind the Calm

Summary: Stoic leaders are having a moment. Podcasts gush about calm. Every leadership guru raves about equanimity. And half the world is clutching Marcus Aurelius quotes. This is only one part of leadership. It is the glimmer of the mind. Read on to see what works and what doesn’t. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Until now, I…

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Two focused professionals studying complex data on a glowing digital screen, symbolizing the importance of head heart gut alignment in leadership decisions.

Lost in Logic™: When Leaders Ignore the Voice Beneath the Data

By Sylvia Lafair | November 13, 2025 | Comments Off on Lost in Logic™: When Leaders Ignore the Voice Beneath the Data

Summary: Here is a more complete way to view your behavior at work. In the new leadership science, your head analyzes, your heart connects, and your gut predicts. When they’re aligned, decisions flow. However, if they’re not, chaos follows. Read on for new ideas. Dear Dr. Sylvia, It’s all my fault! I was the final…

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Young boy in white suit and blue sunglasses holding money, representing childhood wounds and leadership development.

Lost in Childhood ™: How One Leader Faced His Past Before It Finished Him

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2025 | Comments Off on Lost in Childhood ™: How One Leader Faced His Past Before It Finished Him

Summary: Most leaders don’t realize this, but destructive workplace behaviors rarely begin at work. They begin in childhood, long before the corner office, long before the first promotion, long before the first glass of wine at a client dinner seemed like no big deal. Keep reading. This is a need-to-know issue important for long-term success.…

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Three glowing purple light beams symbolizing head, heart, and gut alignment in whole-person leadership.

Glimmers, Leadership, and Alignment: The New Trifecta for Whole-Person Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | November 4, 2025 | Comments Off on Glimmers, Leadership, and Alignment: The New Trifecta for Whole-Person Leadership

Summary: We all know what triggers feel like, those moments when something small sets off a big emotional storm.But what about the opposite? What about the micro-moments that bring you back to yourself? Here’s how head, heart, and gut coherence can turn ordinary leadership into something extraordinary. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am dedicated to helping…

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A professional man juggling glowing orbs symbolizing hypervigilance at work, set against a futuristic background of digital data and analytics.

The Martyr at Work: How Childhood Hypervigilance Shapes Adult Professional Behavior

By Sylvia Lafair | October 23, 2025 | Comments Off on The Martyr at Work: How Childhood Hypervigilance Shapes Adult Professional Behavior

Summary: Many people grow up in unpredictable homes, where moods shift without warning, where you have to “read the room” to stay safe. In those environments, children often learn hypervigilance: a heightened awareness of potential threats, emotional cues, or shifts in tone. It’s a survival strategy that keeps individuals alert and adaptable. Dear Dr. Sylvia,…

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Business professional running toward golden light, symbolizing determination and growth in conflict resolution skills at work.

The Ugly Middle: When Conflict Gets Messy (and What to Do About It)

By Sylvia Lafair | October 9, 2025 | Comments Off on The Ugly Middle: When Conflict Gets Messy (and What to Do About It)

Summary: Every leader wants conflict resolution to occur as quickly as possible. Few are prepared for the ugly middle, where things get confusing. Here’s how to stay grounded when you feel frustrated and hopeless. Dear Dr. Sylvia, The entire world seems to be fighting all the time. There is no middle ground. I often feel…

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A crystal prism on a desk scattering rainbow glimmers of light across business papers, symbolizing leaders trusting glimmers for guidance.

The Spark Leaders Don’t Know They Need

By Sylvia Lafair | September 25, 2025 | Comments Off on The Spark Leaders Don’t Know They Need

Summary: Leadership is often painted as a game of strategy, data, and grit. But ask the best leaders what guided them at critical crossroads, and the answer is rarely found in a spreadsheet. They’ll say, “I just knew,” or “something told me,” or “it clicked in my gut.” Here is why GLIMMERS are so crucial…

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