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4 Ways To Fix What Breaks (A Band-aid Is NOT Enough)

By Sylvia Lafair | August 24, 2021 |

Summary: How can you create a winning situation when it looks like you unintentionally set it up to lose. This is about leadership under pressure. And, in these complex times, pressure is all the time. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Well, it finally happened! And it has been awful, horrible, and over the top frustrating. My whole…

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4 Distinct Ways to Look at Difficult People You Work With From a New Perspective

By Sylvia Lafair | August 17, 2021 |

Summary: How do you deal with people who drive you nuts at work? Do you complain to HR or ignore them? I agree that Work is NOT a Rehab Facility. There are better ways to keep your staff positive besides just firing those with whom you don’t get along. How leaders handle conflict is a…

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When Feedback Makes YOU Defensive Here’s What To Do About It

By Sylvia Lafair | April 28, 2021 |

From the time we arrive on the planet, we are in a constant feedback loop. Before we have verbal language to support us, we use body language. For example: cry for a diaper change or food, and someone shows up. Studies show that babies respond to the nonverbal messages from a caretaker and adjust to…

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Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 26, 2021 |

Dear Dr Sylvia, I have been reading a lot about emotional intelligence recently. My first question is, ‘what is emotional intelligence?’ Actually, I think it is about the capacity to control and express oneself and handle interpersonal relationships with ease, Am I right? I think so. Therefore, I would love to hear your answer to…

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Who Handles ANGER Better, Males Or Females?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 8, 2021 |

Does anger win, or do you? Do you ever stop long enough to think about anger? When you feel that red hot flame of upset that start in your gut? Then it soon finds its way to your mouth. Will you react with shouts ? Or swallow you rage and walk away as fast as…

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Office Romance Stress: What’s Love Got To Do With It? (Plus: A FUN Quiz)

By Sylvia Lafair | February 16, 2021 |

Office romance stress? I’ve seen it ALL before. Here’s my advice… Dear Dr. Sylvia, I always thought I loved complexity and challenges in my life. That is to say, I’m not sure anymore. Why? To clarify, here’s what’s going on and I need some good advice. Looking for love in the wrong places? Above all,…

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Reaping the Rewards of Giving and Getting

By Sylvia Lafair | December 23, 2020 |

Dear All, During times of complexity and confusion, there are always stories of growth and transformation. They are great lessons to take into your life. As a result, this is the focus of today’s post. Leadership skills during tough times In other words, it’s about how to be the best leader you can be during…

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Stress & Mixed Messages: How to Stop the Maddening Communication from Messages that Are Inconsistent and Unclear

By Sylvia Lafair | December 19, 2020 |

Today, I’d like to talk about stress and mixed messages. When stress gets high, mixed messages go even higher. Mixed messages are chaotic and can pull you apart. As a result, you feel pulled in two (or three) different directions. For example, imagine this scene. Let’s just say, you are up to your eyeballs in…

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Leadership Strategies: When is it better to make waves and say NO?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 9, 2020 |

Recently I’ve been asked “When is it better to ‘make waves,’ and say ‘NO’ rather than just go along with what is being said? My response: The art of communication involves both active listening as well as the ability, to tell the truth appropriately. Here is some important learning about the impact of the simple…

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Freudian Slips Are NOT Something Women Wear

By Sylvia Lafair | August 12, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I had the most awful thing happen to me when I was talking with my boss last week. He was making demands that seemed impossible. I stood up for myself and told him the demands he made were impossible to fulfill. He just looked at me with great caring on our Zoom…

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