Leadership Styles

Are You Emotionally Intelligent?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 26, 2021 |

Dear Dr Sylvia, I have been reading a lot about emotional intelligence recently and I would love to hear your answer to the following question: “Is it more effective to talk mostly about facts or add lots of vibrant color using emotional words at work?” I believe we are all looking at the importance of…

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What to do when you feel like you have no more bandwidth

By Sylvia Lafair | July 15, 2020 |

What do you keep telling yourself when you have no more bandwidth to do one more thing?  If you are a high achieving business person, I bet you just said to yourself, “I can always do just one more thing today.”  That’s exactly what my senior VP client told me two weeks ago.  And yesterday I got a call from…

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Telling the Truth: Not for Wimps

By Sylvia Lafair | July 1, 2020 |

Why does telling the truth have to be so darn hard? So much information, so much confusion. Who do you believe?  Which media outlets are pushing out fake news and which are telling the honest, open truth? Anyone? No one? Telling the Truth: Not for Wimps If you missed out on being part of past…

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What Is Needed NOW In Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | June 3, 2020 |

Hi everybody! Sylvia Lafair here, and I woke up this morning pretty agitated in distress, and when I turn the news on, of course, it was validated with what’s going on in Minnesota and literally all over the country for that fact, and I started thinking with school not in, and kids not able to…

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Have the Rules for Competent Leaders Changed?

By Sylvia Lafair | March 11, 2020 |

Have the rules for competent leaders changed over time?  Has social media and the fast pace of the world made the qualities of what real leadership is so different?  I say NO.  I spent time researching what the leaders of old did to keep projects moving quickly. I spent time looking at what was expected…

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Are you an avoider or initiator at work?

By Sylvia Lafair | February 7, 2020 |

Are you (or someone you know) an avoider?  You know…when there is conflict, contention, carrying-on in a nasty way that doesn’t stop, do you ever think “I gotta get outta here?” We all have that feeling at some time. However, when it happens over and over it’s a powerful behavior pattern…the avoider. Avoiders often grew…

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How To Have A Difficult Conversation Productively

By Sylvia Lafair | February 5, 2020 |

Who do you think has the hardest time with feedback? Is it the giver or the receiver? In most leadership development programs the focus is on how the giver, the leader discusses feedback with the receiver, the employee. The team leader comes into the meeting armed with a pre-thought-out performance review, feedback from others on…

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Get the BUT Out of Your YES

By Sylvia Lafair | January 29, 2020 |

Do you ever get frustrated with petty conflicts at work? You’re not alone. A whopping 93% of workers report being affected in a negative manner by conflict.  The other variable is the length of time consumed by on-going, unresolved conflict.  Even worse is the fact that litigation for workplace harassment and hostile work environments has…

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What’s the best present you received?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 23, 2019 |

What is the best present you received this year? I mean, the very best. Is it something you requested or did someone simply make a great guess, and voila, there it is in front of you? And what is the best gift you gave to yourself? Think about the following the next time you are…

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Time for a Change?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 13, 2019 |

Time for a change? Not quite ready?  Does life feel confining?  Spinning your wheels?  That’s what I’m hearing from so many clients these days. Complaints range from climate change to politics, to getting ready for the holidays. Everyone seems just a bit more on edge than only a few months ago when the longer days of summer…

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