How Successful Leaders Handle Stress and Family

By Sylvia Lafair | April 7, 2021 |

Did you ever think about what it means to be a grown-up and a child at the same time? In every society, once you reach a certain age, you are deemed an adult. And yet, there is always that inner feeling of being someone’s little one, even if just for a moment. It’s not about…

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Five Steps to a New You!

By Sylvia Lafair | April 1, 2021 |

Ready for a New YOU! Isn’t that what most of us want? We are constantly striving to evolve and change. Do you start each year with a boatload of positive promises about yourself? Hopefully, at least a few ideas stick so you can become a better person. That there will be ONE, that’s all, just…

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Crack the Code on Stress Once and Forever

By Sylvia Lafair | March 5, 2021 |

Does being told “Just relax” make you even more stressed out? You can’t seem to hit the target and get your life working the way you want. Does the effect of today’s upsets keep you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Are you stressing out because your worries are so strong they cause a lack of focus,…

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Look… We’re All Human, Right?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, Look, we’re all human. Right? We all have good and bad personality traits. Right? We all change and grow as we become more seasoned leaders. Right? And in this uncertain and complex world, we all need to give each other some slack and help each other become the best we can be.…

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Why is My Boss Acting Like a Baby?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, You remember the song from “My Fair Lady” that has the following words “Why can’t a woman be more like a man” and on and on it goes about male superiority. It really seems a bit old-fashioned these days when women are gaining strength at work, at home, everywhere. However, I think…

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Leadership Strategies: When is it better to make waves and say NO?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 9, 2020 |

Recently I’ve been asked “When is it better to ‘make waves,’ and say ‘NO’ rather than just go along with what is being said? My response: The art of communication involves both active listening as well as the ability, to tell the truth appropriately. Here is some important learning about the impact of the simple…

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Speaking Truth to Power

By Sylvia Lafair | October 7, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I have built a great career over the past 15 years. I was considered a high potential emerging leader and now I am seen as a full-blooded really great leader.  However, the changes during this pandemic have me in a quandary. Here’s the issue: in my organization, there are those who follow…

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I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  Here is my issue. I am beyond frustrated and stressed with my boss who is always saying the same things over and over. He loves to talk about himself and brag about…

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Leadership in a Time of Incivility

By Sylvia Lafair | July 29, 2020 |

Watching the service for John Lewis got me thinking. About civil rights, about politics, about funerals, and mostly about civility. That’s something we have lost in our country. Not only civility, even more, but we have also lost the dream of the United States. Why are we so fragmented today? Why are so many people…

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How to See Your Emotional Blind Spots

By Sylvia Lafair | July 22, 2020 |

Want to be able to see what you can’t see? Yes, that sentence makes sense….sort of. It’s like a magic trick. You know, you see it then you don’t. There is a part of your eyes that had no image detection. For the most part, human eyes report to the brain with an accurate picture.…

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