Leadership

How JUBLA (Judgment, Blame, or Attack) Will Make You Angrier and Keep You Feeling Like a Victim, And What to Do About It

By Sylvia Lafair | October 9, 2024 |

Summary: When things don’t go as planned, it’s all too easy to slip into patterns of judgment, blame, or attack (JUBLA). These behaviors, however, are toxic. Not only do they escalate conflict, but they also keep you locked in a cycle of anger, frustration, and victimhood. Learn to move from victim to explorer using pattern…

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A Collaborative Journey to Success: How Direct Reports Can Talk Truth to Power and Help Their Boss Be More Effective

By Sylvia Lafair | September 24, 2024 | Comments Off on A Collaborative Journey to Success: How Direct Reports Can Talk Truth to Power and Help Their Boss Be More Effective

Summary: In the workplace, a hierarchical dynamic often characterizes the relationship between direct reports and their leaders. These power differences can create challenges regarding open and honest communication. But speaking truth to power is essential for a transparent and collaborative work environment. This can significantly enhance a leader’s effectiveness. Direct reports hold valuable insights about…

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What to Look for in Executives as Role Models So Work Cultures Can Thrive

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2024 | Comments Off on What to Look for in Executives as Role Models So Work Cultures Can Thrive

Summary: What separates an ordinary executive from one who serves as an exceptional role model? Whether you’re a business leader, an emerging professional, or part of a hiring committee, selecting a suitable executive role model is crucial for fostering a positive organizational culture. Here’s what matters. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I had an odd experience with…

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The Main Problems Facing Emerging Adults (18-25) in a Chaotic World

By Sylvia Lafair | August 25, 2024 | Comments Off on The Main Problems Facing Emerging Adults (18-25) in a Chaotic World

Summary: Emerging adulthood, the phase between 18 and 25, is a period filled with both potential and pitfalls. As young adults navigate this transformative stage, there are numerous challenges exacerbated by the complexities of our chaotic modern world. Here’s a look at the main problems they encounter and how these challenges shape their journey into…

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How to Know if Your Coach is Helping You Grow: Key Indicators of Progress

By Sylvia Lafair | August 20, 2024 | Comments Off on How to Know if Your Coach is Helping You Grow: Key Indicators of Progress

Summary: Hiring a coach is a significant investment in your personal and professional development. But how do you know if your coach is truly helping you grow? Let’s explore essential signs that your coaching relationship is effective and helping you reach your goals. Dear Dr Sylvia, I want to congratulate you on being named in…

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Turning Drama into Harmony: How the Drama King/Queen Can Transform a Negative Relationship

By Sylvia Lafair | August 15, 2024 | Comments Off on Turning Drama into Harmony: How the Drama King/Queen Can Transform a Negative Relationship

Summary: In every social circle, workplace, or family, there often exists a “drama king” or “drama queen”—those individuals who seem to attract or even thrive on conflict and tension. While their behavior can be frustrating and exhausting for those around them, there’s a silver lining: with the right approach, drama kings and queens can channel…

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How to Create a Winning Situation with the “Petty Tyrant” at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | July 30, 2024 | Comments Off on How to Create a Winning Situation with the “Petty Tyrant” at Work

Summary: Navigating the workplace can be challenging, especially when you have a “petty tyrant” as a colleague or manager. These individuals can make your professional life difficult with micromanagement, criticism, and unreasonable demands. However, there are strategies to turn this challenging situation into a winning one. Here’s how you can effectively manage and thrive despite…

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When Leaders Tear Up: The Glimmer of Power and Positivity Behind Tears at Work

By Sylvia Lafair | July 25, 2024 | Comments Off on When Leaders Tear Up: The Glimmer of Power and Positivity Behind Tears at Work

Summary: Leaders don’t cry! They are strong and brave. In the world of leadership, displaying emotions, particularly tears, can seem like a sign of weakness. However, recent trends and studies suggest otherwise. When leaders tear up or cry about a difficult work situation, it can demonstrate strength, empathy, and authenticity. Let’s delve into understanding that…

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How Leaders Can Turn Tiny Glimmers into Vast Game Changers

By Sylvia Lafair | July 22, 2024 | Comments Off on How Leaders Can Turn Tiny Glimmers into Vast Game Changers

Summary: The ability to spot potential and turn it into groundbreaking success is a rare and invaluable skill. You can become an exceptional leader by learning to identify small opportunities—glimmers—and transform them into significant innovations and impactful changes. Hint: Not all glimmers are happy and yet still matter. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Thank you for an…

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The In-Between Generation: Essential Tools for 18- 24 Year Olds Transitioning into Adult Life

By Sylvia Lafair | July 17, 2024 | Comments Off on The In-Between Generation: Essential Tools for 18- 24 Year Olds Transitioning into Adult Life

Summary: The journey from adolescence to adulthood is a challenging and transformative period for individuals aged 18 to 24, often referred to as the “In-Between Generation.” During this stage, young adults face numerous transitions and responsibilities for which they might not be fully prepared. Dear Dr Sylvia, My son is going into his senior year…

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