Leadership
If you (or someone you know is) are a rescuer, it’s time for a change. STOP! Relax. Just chill. Don’t do anything. Take care of yourself and forget about helping others. Take a break from saving the world. If these words bring a big sigh coming all the way up from your gut you’re listening…
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Have you noticed that the more persecutor/bullies lash out the more the victims of their nastiness go to hide under the bedcovers? I don’t often feel like a victim, however, I had an employee who was the bossiest witch always telling everyone in the office what to do, on her terms. One day I hung…
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Summary: Here’s how the Persecutor (aka bully) stays in charge until someone (as in you) or (as in me) says STOP. Firstly, a true story: Dina told me in our coaching session that she did not think of herself as pretty. A bit overweight and with, as she said, dull, wispy hair, she was always…
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Here is an email that I just received and want to respond immediately. As in, right now. It’s incredibly perfect for the pattern I want to discuss this week, the procrastinator. First, the email: Dear Sylvia, Thank you for contacting me. I apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I hope this gets…
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Let’s look at the difference between a rebel who fights for what is right and how that rebel can turn into a community builder, helping all of us move to new heights of thinking beyond just right and wrong. I specifically want to look at the women of today who are saying “no more!†It’s…
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Last week I wrote about Harvey Weinstein and the long term cultural reasons for his outlandish manish behavior. I received so many responses that I see I hit a nerve. One of you asked some very important questions regarding family. Think, for a minute, about the subtitle of my book “Don’t Bring It To Work,†which…
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What if we decide to move past the natural temptation to blame and decide instead to seek deeper understanding of how so many men could use power to get what they want (or think they want)? This is a plea for all the GUTSY WOMEN and GALLANT MEN to help make the changes in our…
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Do you have a stupid boss? Well, maybe not stupid, just indecisive, or slow in answering? Or perhaps you have an incompetent colleague. You know, one who always messes up the report and you must fix everything? And then there is the passive-aggressive direct report. That’s the one who says “yes†and does “no 
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This week’s article is written with deep sadness. The question that so many are asking today, after the devastation in Las Vegas is “When will we ever learn?†Words fall short. Does calling the killer evil or insane make a real difference? There always seems to be the next evil, insane one. The gun lobby…
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These days stress can come with a change in the weather. Hurricanes, fires, tornadoes, no place is safe anymore. What was business as usual yesterday could be taking a heroic stance to save a life today. This is a great time to evaluate your leadership style and see what you can do to elevate to…
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