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Gender Equality Isn’t About Women Winning And Men Losing

By Sylvia Lafair | October 14, 2015 |

Consider for a moment that women and men have never been equal at any time in history – not ever. This is a staggering thought, and it makes it clear that we are sailing in uncharted waters. It’s why there is no ‘best practice’ in place and no magic wand. What we are involved in…

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How To Get Heard After You’ve Been Whacked Upside The Head

By Sylvia Lafair | September 23, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know you think that we can all transform our negative patterns. I have my doubts. You see, I read your book…twice! And I still have a serious problem. I took the Pattern Aware Quiz and know I am considered a persecutor/bully. I have worked hard to change my style from being…

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GUTSY WOMEN For FREEDOM

By Sylvia Lafair | July 1, 2015 |

We all know about George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, and John Hancock. They are reminders of how determined we must all be when freedom is put in harm’s way. I have always wondered about the women of the Revolution. In school all we were taught was that Betsy Ross was known for sewing the American flag.…

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What To Do When You’ve Said Too Much

By Sylvia Lafair | May 27, 2015 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I read your post yesterday in Examiner.com about anger and by the time I was finished I was sad and depressed. You see, I have come to realize I have a problem with saying way more than is necessary when I get upset. At work, they even sent me to an anger…

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Leadership Training: The 5 Second Breath

By Sylvia Lafair | May 5, 2015 |

Troy is one of the most energetic, funny and charismatic leaders in the company. When someone needs help it is there immediately. When someone has an idea Troy is there with suggestions. When someone feels frustrated, well, you guessed it, Troy has the words that work. EXCEPT Troy was not always a hero. Everyone used…

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Leadership Development: SHUSSSSH Don’t Rock The Boat

By Sylvia Lafair | December 15, 2014 |

Imagine a world where bringing up unpleasant or conflictual subjects is applauded. Imagine if in school good grades were based on asking the unaskable. Just imagine. Where would YOU fit in that kind of setting? Would you be one to ask “Hey, why is the emperor naked?†Or would you be one to put your…

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4 Rules For Great Leading During The Holiday Season

By Sylvia Lafair | November 23, 2014 |

Imagine yourself as the most loved leader in your organization. Imagine being honored at a dinner for your skills and talents. What would they say about you? How would you respond? Leading a team and getting your direct reports to really, really want to get follow you takes lots of deep internal understanding of yourself.…

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They Are ALL Our Children

By Sylvia Lafair | November 23, 2014 |

Years ago I was in Brazil for a conference. It was wonderful looking up at the “Christo Redentor†that is so much a part of Rio. It was fun sun bathing and walking along the famous Ipanema beach. I also had an opportunity to go inland to some of the mines where the crystals are…

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How Do You Prepare for Thanksgiving?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 21, 2014 |

Thank you to Jeannie Mecorney, a Total Leadership Connection graduate, for sending me this fun ditty to launch the holiday season. I belong to the “vegan camp†this year. Our nine-year-old granddaughter is a staunch vegetarian, and we are learning more and more in that direction. So, I will let you know what great and…

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Safe Spaces, Hot Spots And What If

By Sylvia Lafair | November 17, 2014 |

Waiting in Ferguson Missouri. Waiting for the judge to hand down the decision. Waiting to see if there will be violence or calm. Waiting to see how justice is served. Waiting to see if there can be anything new and helpful that will come out of how the people of Ferguson handle a tense and…

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