Patterns

A glowing constellation in a night sky above a quiet forest path, symbolizing the difference between coincidence and synchronicity as patterns that reveal hidden meaning.

Coincidence or Synchronicity? Here’s the Twist.

By Sylvia Lafair | August 19, 2025 |

Summary: A coincidence is like bumping into an old friend at the grocery store when you’re both reaching for the same bag of organic spinach. Random, curious, and a little funny. Synchronicity, though, that’s a whole different ball game. It’s when life’s things come together like a cosmic stage manager with perfect timing. Read on.…

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Are You Living Your Best Life? It’s Not a Hashtag, It’s a Choice

By Sylvia Lafair | August 7, 2025 | Comments Off on Are You Living Your Best Life? It’s Not a Hashtag, It’s a Choice

Summary: The phrase “living your best life” has been hijacked by surface-level nonsense. Let’s reclaim it. Living your best life means confronting the behavior patterns that still influence you. It means saying no to outdated roles (such as rescuer, martyr, or avoider) and saying yes to leading with purpose and clarity. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Today…

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Resignation cake with hastily written 'Good luck' message sits untouched in office break room while employees remain distant, symbolizing poor employee termination communication.

What Happens When an Employee Is Fired Without Clear Communication

By Sylvia Lafair | August 4, 2025 | Comments Off on What Happens When an Employee Is Fired Without Clear Communication

Summary: When a team member is suddenly fired without clear communication, it doesn’t just impact that individual. It shakes the entire team’s foundation. Here are the emotional and psychological ripple effects, along with practical ways to restore clarity, confidence, and trust. Dear Dr. Sylvia, One of the nicest and most connected members of our Senior…

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Stop Overthinking and Start Talking: Why “Letting Them Be” Isn’t Leadership

By Sylvia Lafair | July 31, 2025 | Comments Off on Stop Overthinking and Start Talking: Why “Letting Them Be” Isn’t Leadership

Summary: You’ve heard the advice before:  “Just let them be. ”You can’t change people. “Ignore them and move on.”Sure, there’s a time for inner work. There’s also a time to get off the meditation cushion and actually speak up. Let’s get real: thinking about how you feel isn’t the same as doing something about it.…

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A bright orange lifesaver and a silver ladder side by side on a paved surface, symbolizing the shift from rescuer to mentor.

Stop Rescuing. Start Leading: How the Rescuer Becomes the Mentor

By Sylvia Lafair | July 23, 2025 | Comments Off on Stop Rescuing. Start Leading: How the Rescuer Becomes the Mentor

Summary: They’re falling behind. You swoop in to help. You make sure they won’t drown. You’re praised for being “the one who always saves the day. ” After the tenth time of fixing someone else’s mess, a thought creeps in: ”Why am I working harder than the people I’m rescuing?” Welcome to the Rescuer Pattern,…

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A silhouetted business leader stands at a crossroads at sunset, with directional signs reading “Old Patterns” and “New Awareness,” symbolizing a leadership choice.

Why Most Leadership Programs Fail, And How Pattern Awareness Changes Everything

By Sylvia Lafair | July 15, 2025 | Comments Off on Why Most Leadership Programs Fail, And How Pattern Awareness Changes Everything

Summary: Let’s get right to it: most leadership programs fail. Not because the content is bad. Not because the facilitators lack experience. However, they focus on surface-level skills while overlooking the underlying factors that drive behavior. Der Dr. Sylvia, I would like to persuade my favorite member of our Executive Team to participate in your…

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What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

By Sylvia Lafair | June 30, 2025 | Comments Off on What Is Your Declaration of Independence?  Lead the Rest of 2025 Like You Mean It

Summary: Flags, fireworks, and food sum up the traditional way Independence Day is celebrated.  Welcome to July 4th. But before we fall into another loop of red, white, and blue, let’s pause and ask the underlying question that the Founders discussed over and over as they planned a new way in the 13 colonies. Dear Dr.…

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Founding Fathers depicted with historical textures reflecting the leadership patterns that shaped a nation.

How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

By Sylvia Lafair | June 29, 2025 | Comments Off on How American Independence Was Sparked with Rumors and Conspiracy Theories, Much Like Today: Pattern Repetition to Pattern Transformation

Summary: Let’s learn from the American Revolution. Rewind to 1776, a time before cable news. Back then, the colonies were a hotbed of unrest, rebellion, and yes… conspiracy theories. But instead of letting these theories spiral into chaos and infighting, the early revolutionaries did something brilliant: they used the momentum to unite the colonies under…

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A calm leader surround by a team in chaos.

The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

By Sylvia Lafair | June 19, 2025 | Comments Off on The Quiet Storm: How Type B Personalities Lead Without Needing a Spotlight

Summary: Let’s face it, workplaces are loud these days. They are noisy and speedy, not always in decibels, but in energy. Type A individuals are often at the forefront, leading meetings as if their lives depend on it. Then there are the Type B individuals who are not sure how to fit in. Here is…

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A man in office attire illustrating oversharing at work with colorful letters and symbols swirling from his mouth and around his head.

Oversharing at Work: When “Being Real” Turns Really Awkward

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2025 | Comments Off on Oversharing at Work: When “Being Real” Turns Really Awkward

Summary: Let’s talk about oversharing. It’s that awkward moment when someone turns a team meeting into a therapy session. You’ve seen it. You’ve cringed. Maybe (gulp) you’ve even done it. Welcome to the land of Too Much Information (TMI) at work. Today’s world of stress has this population growing fast. Dear Dr Sylvia, Why do…

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