Patterns

Letting Go of Behavior Patterns That We Developed During Childhood

By Sylvia Lafair | December 17, 2019 |

Hi everyone! I hope you’re having a glorious day even though everything seems overwhelmed and rushed, and we can’t move fast enough, and we can’t please everybody but nonetheless we just keep persevering, right? Except, sometimes we feel submissive compliant filled with self-doubt, create self-sabotage. Those days, everybody does it and what happens is, it…

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How to get yourself out of overwhelm

By Sylvia Lafair | December 11, 2019 |

How to get yourself out of overwhelm seems to be a recurring theme right now.  One of my clients put it this way “I came home from work and kicked the dog.”   Then, at least 7 other clients texted me this week with concerns that were variations on the ‘kick the dog’ theme.  They were all about the conundrum (what…

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From Mad to Glad

By Sylvia Lafair | December 3, 2019 |

So, let me ask you? What do you do when you get so foot-stomping angry, that were pounding your handle in a desk, that you just say: ‘They’re driving me crazy! He’s driving me crazy! She’s driving me crazy! They’re driving me crazy! What do you do? Well, let me tell you, there is an…

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Thanksgiving Dinner Game

By Sylvia Lafair | November 25, 2019 |

There’s a great game… Whoops! All right, I got it all set now. There’s a great game that you can play at Thanksgiving dinner. It’s called, “Connect the dots.” So, here’s how it works: Sit there and as you listen to people, think about who do they remind you of… there’s your uncle sitting there.…

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Are You Ready to Stop Self-Sabotaging?

By Sylvia Lafair | October 8, 2019 |

I have received a rash of emails from women executives who are being plagued with self-doubt and a non-stop inner critic telling them “You fool, stop pretending. Business is never going to change.”  Does doubt keep you awake at night? Does that self-sabotaging voice get louder as the night becomes quieter? Do you know deep…

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Is being a leader a good idea?

By Sylvia Lafair | June 12, 2019 |

Have you ever wondered if being a leader is such a good idea? Or, if you are in a strong leadership position, have you ever wondered if you made the right choice. Leadership sounds so great. However, it’s not the ‘piece of cake’ so many people think it is. Recently I got an email from…

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How to break through the patterns holding you back

By Sylvia Lafair | June 6, 2019 |

I want to talk to you about how to break through the patterns that are holding you back. Get a rubber band. Well, you can wait till you read why you need one. A rubber band around your wrist (any color you want is fine) can help you breakthrough the annoying outdated behavior patterns that…

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Are you a maximizer or a satisfier…take this simple test

By Sylvia Lafair | April 24, 2019 |

How do you decide what to decide? There is a great line in the play Into the Woods that we have used in our Total Leadership connections program that shows how so many of us wait to let others make decisions while we stand on the sidelines waiting for a signal for our next move. Picture Cinderella…

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Gaslighting and how it can impact you

By Sylvia Lafair | April 17, 2019 |

Gaslighting is a hot topic these days.  Many people are victims of gaslighting without even knowing it.  It affects your sense of self-worth, your confidence, and your sanity. Have you ever spent time with a narcissist or a sociopath? You can sense them from their cunning and self-importance. They are the opposite of fine wine.…

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How the Pattern Breakthrough Process Creates Change

By Sylvia Lafair | February 6, 2019 |

Here at Ceoptions we have been using our signature pattern breakthrough process to create lasting change and help today’s leaders prepare for the inevitable challenges that come their way. Question: How does a 13- year- old boy scoring points for his basketball team connect with his mother climbing the corporate ladder? Here’s the story recently…

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