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Conflict Competence: The Answer to Your Stress

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021 |

Stressed out? Conflict competence is the solution. Read on to learn more… Dear Dr Sylvia,   I have a question. I need more than just a simple answer.  Therefore, what I am asking for is a solution.  Further, I need an action plan.  As a result, if you can do that, I will follow you forever.  To clarify, let me say,…

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Procrastinate? Who Me? I’ll Get Back To You About This Tomorrow!

By Sylvia Lafair | February 25, 2021 |

Wonder why you keep putting off doing things? What or who do you blame? Here we explore the procrastinator-perfection-paralysis syndrome. Hey, you wonder what is procrastination anyway. It really comes down to one ugly underlying habit: people-pleasing. Here’s how to stop. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  It took me weeks to finally press the “send” button on my email…

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Stress & Mixed Messages: How to Stop the Maddening Communication from Messages that Are Inconsistent and Unclear

By Sylvia Lafair | December 19, 2020 |

Today, I’d like to talk about stress and mixed messages. When stress gets high, mixed messages go even higher. Mixed messages are chaotic and can pull you apart. As a result, you feel pulled in two (or three) different directions. For example, imagine this scene. Let’s just say, you are up to your eyeballs in…

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Look… We’re All Human, Right?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2020 |

How to have a positive mindset. Stay tuned. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Look, we’re all human. Right? As a result, we all have good and bad personality traits. Right? Firstly, I want to know how to have a positive mindset. On the other hand, I want to know how do you change your mindset from negative…

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Why is My Boss Acting Like a Baby?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, Do you remember the popular song from “My Fair Lady?” The one with the following words “Why can’t a woman be more like a man? ”It goes on and on about male superiority. Above all, it really seems a bit old-fashioned these days when women are gaining strength at work, at home,…

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Common Destructive Behavior Patterns That Can Drive You NUTS, at Work, at Home, Everywhere (and what to do about them)

By Sylvia Lafair | November 3, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia. I hate to complain, but my boss is driving me totally crazy. He is smart and knows the science behind what we do, however, as a leader he is just plain awful. For example, He is always telling us how great he is. He brags about how many awards he has won,…

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Elections, Families, and Victor Frankenstein

By Sylvia Lafair | October 21, 2020 |

Summary: Elections happen all the time. Here is a way to think about who you want to vote for and support. How do we know which candidates have self-awareness and are emotionally intelligent? Elections are part of our lives. From high school campaigns to national elections, there is always someone who wants your vote. How…

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I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 |

Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  In addition, you also talk about…

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Romancing the Bullies

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2020 |

Summary: How to become more self-aware is vital for workplace productivity. Here is what you can do. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  My boss is driving me crazy. I want to help and be a great colleague. However, what he is doing makes no sense. Could you help me understand?  For example, He ignores those who want…

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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 |

Summary: Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Your home and your mind! Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on.   Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I am known as “the boss who is not bossy.”  Indeed, that’s good.…

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