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Look… We’re All Human, Right?

By Sylvia Lafair | December 2, 2020 |

How to have a positive mindset. Stay tuned. Dear Dr. Sylvia, Look, we’re all human. Right? As a result, we all have good and bad personality traits. Right? Firstly, I want to know how to have a positive mindset. On the other hand, I want to know how do you change your mindset from negative…

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Why is My Boss Acting Like a Baby?

By Sylvia Lafair | November 11, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia, Do you remember the popular song from “My Fair Lady?” The one with the following words “Why can’t a woman be more like a man? ”It goes on and on about male superiority. Above all, it really seems a bit old-fashioned these days when women are gaining strength at work, at home,…

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Common Destructive Behavior Patterns That Can Drive You NUTS, at Work, at Home, Everywhere (and what to do about them)

By Sylvia Lafair | November 3, 2020 |

Dear Dr. Sylvia. I hate to complain, but my boss is driving me totally crazy. He is smart and knows the science behind what we do, however, as a leader he is just plain awful. For example, He is always telling us how great he is. He brags about how many awards he has won,…

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Elections, Families, and Victor Frankenstein

By Sylvia Lafair | October 21, 2020 |

Summary: Elections happen all the time. Here is a way to think about who you want to vote for and support. How do we know which candidates have self-awareness and are emotionally intelligent? Elections are part of our lives. From high school campaigns to national elections, there is always someone who wants your vote. How…

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I’m Not Pattern Blind

By Sylvia Lafair | September 30, 2020 |

Summary: Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are essential aspects of high-level positive communication. Here are some ideas to help you be the best leader you can be. Dear Dr. Sylvia, I’ve heard you talk about “Pattern Blindness” in the same sentence as “Speaking the Unspeakable.” Can you say more, please?  In addition, you also talk about…

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Romancing the Bullies

By Sylvia Lafair | September 16, 2020 |

Summary: How to become more self-aware is vital for workplace productivity. Here is what you can do. Dear Dr. Sylvia,  My boss is driving me crazy. I want to help and be a great colleague. However, what he is doing makes no sense. Could you help me understand?  For example, He ignores those who want…

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What to do when you feel like you have no more bandwidth

By Sylvia Lafair | July 15, 2020 |

What do you keep telling yourself when you have no more bandwidth to do one more thing?  If you are a high achieving business person, I bet you just said to yourself, “I can always do just one more thing today.”  That’s exactly what my senior VP client told me two weeks ago.  And yesterday I got a call from…

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How to declutter your mind and get it organized

By Sylvia Lafair | June 17, 2020 |

Did you declutter your home during the past few months? Is that all you need to declutter? Here’s what one of my clients said that had me laughing and cheering him on. Two levels to declutter…. Your home and your mind!  “Dear Dr. Sylvia,  I have always been a leader, and I have been known as “the boss who is…

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It’s Time To STOP Being a Pleaser

By Sylvia Lafair | June 1, 2020 |

Hi everyone, Sylvia Lafair here, with some thoughts about where we are heading as the vaccine takes on the pandemic. Many of my clients have complained that they are exhausted and feel overwhelmed because they can’t say no. They are worried about how to react when schools and workplaces open up once again. Get ready…

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How to Deal with a Narcissist

By Sylvia Lafair | May 20, 2020 |

I’ve been getting lots of questions about how to deal with the narcissist lately. I began to wonder if this personality type is more prevalent, or at least more obvious during times of extra stress.  So, I did a deep dive into various publications and paid special attention to the news.   Yes, there are lots of…

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